| Author: Sharada 21 Apr 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
Firstly you have only mentioned the situation raised but you have not provided your religion along with the age of both.
You have to also provide some information regarding your profession or the method from which you are making your earnings to lead a comfortable life. This may also be one of the reasons for non-acceptance of your relationship with the girl.
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| Author: Ramachandran Pattabiraman 21 Apr 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
Though it has been argued well cinematically, in practice no parents,irrespective of brahmin or any caste/religion will accept this. The term love marriage is successful only in cinemas and stories but in practice is not that much easy as we think. First of all the lovers (both)should think about their parents and families that with how much expectations they brought up us - what will be the reaction if we went aloof from them.
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| Author: saurabh 22 Apr 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 1 Voting Score: 0 |
If a barahman family mix your family with him than your family also make a barahman family. And the 2nd way is court marrige.
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| Author: Praveen Kumar K 22 Apr 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 3 Voting Score: 0 |
In this scenario, I would suggest you to speak with the Girl and gain more clarity about your future. I could realize that you and your parents are ready, but the girls parents are not giving any sort of Green line.
Points to be clarified :
1. Whether she is ready to share your life
2. Parents are important. Agree. But Husband is important too. so ready to make a final decession?
6 years is so looooong. And is to be appreciated for sure. But I hope your parents are also not so ready to wait for some more time. Check and recheck yourself and make a decession asap.
You may receive better answers if you would have mentioned your age and professions. I dont think concentrating in BRAHMIN is not important here.
Regards,
Praveen
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| Author: rana atiq 25 Apr 2012 Member Level: Silver Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
Situation narrated by you reveals she is flirting you. If she is in true love with you, she should have taken serious step to convince her parents. Getting marry in right age is considered rational decision and you are loosing your right age after insincere girl. If u feel she truly loves u, give her final deadline with a specific date. you will find the final result what she mind. No-response upto deadline may pave the way to move next.
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| Author: Hafeezur Rahman P 25 Apr 2012 Member Level: Diamond Points : 1 Voting Score: 0 |
There is no personal hint about yourself. However, you may give final deadline with some duration to her parents and her together. Then, after few days gap, follow your parents decision. All the best.
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| Author: Chitra 02 May 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 6 (Rs 3) Voting Score: 0 |
One day will come, her parents will accept you. Meanwhile you give her strength and support.
I went through your story and can't blame you both. As at an younger age people feel attracted to the opposite sex, but I think yours is a more sincere one. What I actually liked about this story is that your lover, she is a gem of a person so please do not let her go. She is very much different from the present day girls, who are least bothered about their parents who brought them up.
Then her parents, they are worried about their daughter's future. And you did not specify your caste. Normally Brahmins do not prefer marrying someone lower to them by caste. They follow rigid rules and customs, you cannot ask them to leave their beliefs and support you. They will definitely support you one day, but for that you have to wait. They cannot see their daughter's tears for long, henceforth surely a day will come favoring you until then you should have patience and you should be able to convince your parents.
Your lover cannot be blamed at all. She is just being honest and faithful to her parents and to you. She has no intention of spoiling your life rather she loves you a lot and would love to live with you. But how can she forget her parents. They are the one, who was with her throughout, they brought her up, they might have faced lot of troubles and sacrifices to bring her up. She only knows about it and about their love and care to her. How can she not see that. She should definitely respect her parents and should wait for their response, a favorable one. This does not mean that she doesn't like you. She loves you as well that is why she is ready topsoil her life waiting for you until her last breath. That is all she can sacrifice now as she likes her parents and you. A selection between both will be difficult as it is true love.
Now a day's girls just ignore their parents when they are with their boy friend and later on when they realize their actual value/worth, it will be too late. She is unlike them and you should be proud of her. It is better to trust and love a girl who cares for her parents and love them rather than going behind a girl who just ignore her parents who did everything for her throughout her life just for the sake of her happy life. She will be definitely a good pair for you and can love you all throughout.
If she can wait until her last breath for you, then why don't you wait. That show your love to her. What she need now is your support and caring. Don't blame her for she is in such a situation now. Be with her, give her strength and try to convince your parents and a d ay will come then the wind will blow in favor of you. This is my suggestion from my understanding of your story.
Don't worry. Hope for the best. True love does not demand leaving together, it is the minds that needs to be together.
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| Author: Shashikanth Vydyula 02 May 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
This is your life and you have complete rite for your happiness.Say this to your girlfriend.She may think about it.You didn't mentioned about your caste and the reason for objection from her parents.She may be thinking that running away from family may land her into orphan state since nobody from her family will be there for any ocassion after your marriage.She is quite correct.My friend please be patient and get approval from both sides.Try your best to convince them.
Good Luck for your Love.
Regards.
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| Author: Ramprasad 03 May 2012 Member Level: Diamond Points : 5 (Rs 3) Voting Score: 0 |
Well you are facing very tough and helpless situation. As we all know every problem has a solution. Both of you are in love since 6 years and your love is known to both of your parents, the problem in your love is disagree of the girl's parents towards your love and marriage. Well as the girl belongs to Brahmin community, the top most class in the Indian Hindu society. They enjoys the status of top community hence they are very much strict with religious beliefs. Love marriages are not allowed in Brahmin community as they treat all other communities are lesser than them.
Well in your case the girl thinking with double minded, she once wants to marry with you then she changing her mind immediately and telling with the permission of her parents. As her parents are aware about your love and they haven't agreed it yet even since 4 years, you haven't many options left. You and the girl have to take affirm decision as the time passing on quickly. First go one last time and meet her parents along with your parents and some elders, try to convince them show examples what is happening in present world everywhere. Make them understand it is not the Caste and community that will bring happiness on the faces of both parents and girl it is only by marring the person the girl likes only allows happiness. If still they stick with their beliefs, ask the girl for register marriage as the final solution. Ask her to decide whether she wants future with you or with her parents, if she still says with the permission of her parents, the problems continues for years. In between her parents marries the girl with some other person belonging to Brahmin community. Hence you and the girl talk and decide the final solution without wasting anytime.
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| Author: sushma.s.m 03 May 2012 Member Level: Silver Points : 3 (Rs 1) Voting Score: 0 |
I feel you should sit and talk to the girl personally. Know all the problems from her, ask her what is on her mind and then take a step. Try convincing her for register marriage or ask her to convince her parents. She has to either convince her parents or she has to agree for register marriage. One soultion has to be to solve this problem and only she can solve the problem. She has to be bold in taking any decision. If she is ready to move on with her life, then even you must move in with your life with out turning back the past. And you also sit and talk to your parents and do listen to your parents. Because, parents are the only one in earth who can never think of something that can harm their child's life. If your parents want you to move on in life with out waiting for some more years for the girl, talk to girl and give her some time to decide. If she comes with a positive reply, then well and good you can get settled with her. If she is still confused even after you giving time, then go according to your parents. Because one has to make right decisions in the right time else its of no use and the girl has to be stable. She is not supposed to be confused and not supposed to change decision every moment.
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| Author: Arvind Rampure 05 May 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 1 Voting Score: 0 |
If you really love that girl and she is having same feeling for you. You should do register merriage then only tell her parents. easly they will not ready for merriage.After registerred merriage they do not have option they will have to accept you.
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| Author: [Anonymous] 15 Jun 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
"i am really sorry to say this "Better u leave this chapter and love. have a peaceful life with your parents wish, because every parents loving their child,we also love our parents it will be common for boys & girls, but generally people everyone says parents are believe so much of girls and they have dream about their daughter marriage like that; it means boys parents are told to their son go and correct a girl & love her like that. but love is apart from that like religion,caste,language,etc..but now a days true love is very less. so aleast u must care of your parents love with u thats y ur parents stand in front her house even her family treat in right way also,if she's having true love with u your love will success or else your life will success i wish u all the best for both.
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| Author: Halloween Harmony 15 Jun 2012 Member Level: Silver Points : 4 (Rs 1) Voting Score: 0 |
@ the post owner
listen friend one day her parents will be OK with your relationship.And do not worry just wait for that memorable day and try to give mental support to your girl friend.
1st of all now a days there is still some religion problem cast problem is present in our so called modern society.you can not over come it standing alone against them.what you can do that is to fight against that.but the fight should be using your brain and you have to be strong by your mind and have to be calm all the time.
at 1st you said that your girl friend was ok with the relationship and was determined to wait for you until her parents will be convinced.that shows her love for you and also a indication of the responsibility to her parents which you can not over come.
But with in some days she started not thinking about her parents and for your mental pressure of break up she was determined for a registry marriage.that was just a decision taken under the fear pressure of the breakup.you should not consider that as her fault.
now the situation is so that she is not ok with a registry in the absence of the parents.i personally appreciate this decision because you guys are not doing any wrong thing .love is not an offence. every body has the power or right to love any one and to be loved by any one.
but you know the problem is parents made us as they want from our child hood.they have some dream related with us.they are not the culprit if they are not ok with our relationship.misunderstanding, backdated view is the main culprit.you have to destroy that.
in the same time if you both went for a registry with our telling your parents ,your parents will not be ok with that but in future will tolerate that for sure but that will not be from their heart.that will be just because you are the children and they are mom and dad.
you just tell your girlfriend to convince her parents being calm and cool.time can change every thing if you want and you wish so from the deep of your heart.i hope if she will try,with time her parents will be ok with the marriage.at the same time you also try to make your parents calm and help them to realize the importance of that girl in your life.you can also try to convince your would be father in law and mother in law but with a lot of ice in your head.hope every thing will be better
so friend do not be upset and do not leave the hand of your love .try to give company try to be the part of every happiness and sorrow of her life.
wish you both a happy future life and best of luck
be finger crosses and hope for the best
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| Author: Manoj Gathe -> MPG 15 Jun 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 3 Voting Score: 0 |
Dear Friend,
I suspect everything is fare in love n war. But it doesn't mean you keep on spoiling your life for getting some few out of a lot, which may cause a lot of hindrance in your life which can really turn down your life into an actual pit which you may never been thought of.
I believe you must speak to your loved one (to whom you love since long) to take the direct decision enabling either "YES" or "NO" so as to ride on the way of life on either direction.
Looking at your life history you have already spent more than 5 years for the same waiting n waiting n waiting... which may or may not help you to get what you really need.
Hence I believe you must speak directly to go on either direction and then to start a new chapter of your life.
I hope you may like this thought
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| Author: KadaJ54 15 Jun 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
Dear friend,
when people get in love their desire is to get the loved women and hence the throw away everything and run away with thier beloved,which is quitely a foolishness .Without job,family members a life of two youngsters are spoiled .
GIRLS ARE LIKE FIRE AND WILL CHANGE ACCORDING TO THE DIRECTIONS OF WIND,SO BE CAREFULL DUDES.
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