| Author: Sandeep Pandey 14 Jun 2012 Member Level: Silver Points : 3 (Rs 2) Voting Score: 2 |
Dear friend,
I think you never fall in love till now. It is obvious that you are facing this problem of attraction towards others. Most of the people face this problem. No need to be worry about it, you will understand some day. Here are your answers for questions.
The answer for your first question is that it completely depends on both of you that what you want from each other. But medically it is said that it is not better to have a relation when you are tired. So most people not prefer it just after the marriage.
Well about the frequency, it depends on the couples that how much active both of them are. Most of the people feel tired due to frequently being physical with each other. You should keep in mind that both of you have to be healthy so that you both can take care of family too. So high frequency will always be harmful for partners.
If you do not want children just after the marriage there are lots of methods in the market right now. You can easily go to the any medical store and ask there for help. They have many things to help you about this.
Here is the big problem with you. But the solution is very simple. You just have to change your thinking friend. Go and found someone who can love you or fall in love with someone, then you will surely get the answer for your query. Generally when people fall in love with someone they understand the feelings of others and can understand the humanity better. You seems like to be a good person, respect girls, don't be that much crazy about them. Being human is the greatest thing for a man.
If you feel problem regarding dreams. Dear look you are the only one who can control you energy from going it out. And you are the owner of your mind so you can control your emotions too. The best solution is that indulge in something better like social services so that the energy which is going in wrong direction can go into the right directions. This will make you feel proud and also helps you to be always away from such things.
Remember all your problems are due to not having a true love in your life. Go understand feelings of others make them love you. Wining the heart of a girl is much more precious and enjoyably than going physical with her.
Regards
Sandeep Pandey
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| Author: [Anonymous] 15 Jun 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 4 (Rs 3) Voting Score: 0 |
Proper sex education is very much important and the more important is the source from which we get our sex education.
Answer 1: It is mainly a traditions that both the bride and groom sleep together for the first time from the first wedding night but that doesn't mean that the physical relation also start from that night onward. It is better to properly know your partner first and then go for physical relationship. Both mental and physical bonding is very much necessary between the partners in their first intercourse.
Answer 2: In actual, there are no limit but doctors suggest that it is better if partners have intercourse at the maximum of two times in a week. But here also it somehow also depends upon your partners whether she/he wants to have it or not.
Answer 3: There are condoms available in the market for both men and women. Women can also use diaphragm, copper-T and cervical caps to prevent unnecessary pregnancy.
Answer 4: Since we are human, it is very much natural to get attract to the opposite gender other than our partners but seriously don't go for any other person except your own partner. Whenever you get this types of feeling try to think about your partner, try to bring their face in front of your and think about his/her likes or dislikes, anything related to your partner.
Answer 5: You are thinking about that other person and that the reason why you are having dreams like these. Meditate for some time thinking about something good except intercourse before sleeping. Also try some effective ways to lower down your sexual desires.
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| Author: Sultan Mustafijul Hoque 15 Jun 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 2 (Rs 1) Voting Score: 0 |
To decrease sexual desires, it may be the best solution - spend more times in indiastudychannel. This will divert your mind from those unexpected things. Even spending your leisure with indiastudychannel will divert you from reading those magazines. Try to follow Mr. Saneep Panday's points, I am sure that you will succeed in your works.
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| Author: [Anonymous] 16 Jun 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 3 (Rs 2) Voting Score: 0 |
Whatever Mr. Sultan has suggested is more of a praise to indiastudychannel(which it is worthy of) but not quite practical..
Because, I myself am a teenager and I know that spending too much time on the internet eventually leads to curiosity that leads you to some adult content.
I've been through a similar state where I've had such dreams and such thoughts that come to my mind..
But over the past 3 months.. I've started keeping myself occupied.. and started making and maintaining a strict timetable and a to-do list.
I've managed to stay out of those thoughts by just keeping a track of my priorities, my goals in life, and my studies..
I'm not exactly answering the questions seperately... I'm just answering your thought system which in itself is a huge question!
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| Author: Varun 17 Jun 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 3 (Rs 1) Voting Score: 0 |
The current society where we live in, Sex education is an essentialist. The reason why so many 'sex' related mis-happening happen in our country is because we lack a proper sex education system. People don't understand the 'right' and 'wrong of it.
Now your (or rather all our!) issue - How do i go to these kind of facilities? A frank answer would be. Its quite difficult. The reason? Our Culture and Our Upbringing. Like Newton's law says 'Every action there s an equal and opposite reaction'. Same applies to our culture too. We tend to be inside a cocoon for a very long time, and once we come out of that, the world we see out there is not what we exactly thought it would have been like that! So these things needs to be changed.
Addressing the other issues
For Question 1 and 2: It is a choice. There is nothing that stops you from any of those.
Question no 3: Contraceptives/birth control 'barriers'.
Question No 4 and 5: There are certain age related things that happen. It would fade in time. Other things that you could try is Yoga/Meditation, Reading etc.,
Everything is gonna be fine my friend.
Just have a positive attitude towards things; All is gonna be well :)
Cheers
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| Author: Manoj Gathe -> MPG 19 Jun 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
I suggest the following tips for maintaining the healthy family relationships.
1. Do not think much on the thoughts you are coming across related with sex, since you are the one who can control your feelings, mindset and emotions regarding it.
2. Try to involve yourself in reading books, watching some old but art movies like movies of Raj kapoor etc. which may resolve some questions in your mind.
3. Sex is required in the life. Hence do not hesitate to discuss any thing related with it with your partner to whom you believed a lot and loved a lot too.
Belief and love both are dependant on each other. So please take care that if one will disturb, other will automatically disturb without noticing to you.
4. You can involve yourself into lots of social activities for moving away from such sexual thoughts regourously in your mind which are disturbing your physical and mental mind set.
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