| Author: Jyoti Malhotra 12 Jul 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 4 (Rs 4) Voting Score: 0 |
The situation arising of this sort comes as a common feature due to generation gap. Parents belong to the olden times and we are born in the modern world with latest technology and traditions. But we should never forget our basics, our traditions, religion and of course our country.
First of all you need to understand the indepth meaning of the traditions and religion in your life and then only you can make her or anybody else understand the same.
You have to make your fiance realize that traditions are to be followed not as a custom but as your duty towards the nation or country in which you are born. Though she can wear other dresses also but most of the time she should wear traditional as she has to live with your parents. Therefore, she has to do some effort to win the heart of your parents.
On the other hand you have to make a balance for this by making your parents realise that your fiance also needs some breathing space so make her wear her choice at times so that both of them will be happy always.
Your role means a lot in this to make both the ends meet easily and meaningfully happy.
Best of luck!!!!
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| Author: Bhakti Savla 12 Jul 2012 Member Level: Gold Points : 4 (Rs 3) Voting Score: 0 |
This problem you are facing is a generation gap problem. According to me, your fiancee should be wearing clothes that she feels comfortable wearing. But, since your parents are of the belief that good culture comes only with traditional clothes, then, both parties (your parents and your fiancee) have to compromise a little bit to arrive at a common solution that keeps everyone happy.
Try the following tips to convince your fiancee to wear traditional dresses:
-There are good traditional dresses like salwar-kameez, Kurtis, etc. which are quite stylish and attractive at the same time. Take your fiancee to a mall and show her such good collection. I am sure she will like some of them.
-Show her movies were actresses have looked beautiful in traditional sarees and other dresses.
-Allow her to wear western clothes atleast 1-2 days every week. Also, allow her to wear western clothes when the two of you go for an outing alone or with friends. She shouldn't feel that only she had to compromise. You also have to convince your parents to allow her wearing western dress atleast 1 day every week.
-Book a couple photo session (in traditional clothes) at a good photography studio. When your fiancee sees how good the two of you look together in traditional clothes, she is bound to feel attracted towards it.
-Keep your fiancee happy by taking her out for dinners and movies frequently. I am sure her heart will melt by seeing your efforts and she will start wearing traditional clothes (atleast sometimes).
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| Author: Farid Akhtar 12 Jul 2012 Member Level: Diamond Points : 3 (Rs 3) Voting Score: 0 |
She was your girl friend and now your fiancee that means this relation grows up with time, so perhaps you should be perfectly known to each other. You are saying she is good and sincere girl too so what is the problem with her being little innovative about her fashion. I think you should explain the situation to your parents and tell them to adjust with her without much high cry. Important thing in life is what kind of people you are having in relation and not what she is wearing or not wearing. In this 21st century, you can't control somebody's dressings, the way things going on soon there will be no shop for Sari or Salwar Kurta so no need to go back to lady for any suggestion or teaching but one thing you can tell her that it should not be exposing or revealing rest is alright. Try to educate your parents as a lots of girl, giving a hard time to in laws at least she is not doing that, its very important for any relationship to be a good person, rest all can be settled by time.
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| Author: Ashwath Mallya 13 Jul 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 3 (Rs 2) Voting Score: 0 |
Hi,
In 21st century almost all city girls like to wear modern dresses and there is nothing wrong in wearing them. I think you are in a better position to convince your parents rather than convincing your fiancee. Please talk to your parents and help them understand your situation. End of the day you need to keep your parents and fiancee happy to have a healthy relationship.
You can convince her to wear saree on family occasions however on the day to day basis, the girls prefer to wear the dress which is comfortable to them. Saree may not be that comfortable for the 21st century girls other than TV Serial actors.
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| Author: Nupur Khalkho 18 Jul 2012 Member Level: Diamond Points : 4 (Rs 3) Voting Score: 0 |
Traditional dresses are glamorous. Today's fashion trends look forward to ethnic designs from ear rings to nose pins. The traditional dresses are very well designed to suit the lifestyle of a 21st century women. It is not possible to force anyone wear anything. If she loves you much she will not let you down infront of your family members. Don't worry, stay cool. Allow her to have some space, she will decide about her apparel.
It is not possible to wear traditional clothes everyday. She can make a feminine choice. If a woman wears a dress which is sober and elegant, I don't think family members should have any problem. Dress designers these days make outfits which have an indo-western finish. Allow her fusion wears. This will keep her happy and your family members comfortable. Do not get to anxious, just chill.
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| Author: Rohit Sharma 19 Jul 2012 Member Level: Silver Points : 3 Voting Score: 0 |
Hello
I will suggest you to tell your fiancee to wear traditional clothes just for a short period of time. I am advising to relocate with your wife after marriage.
I am advising you to find a job a job in a city other than yours, in live there with your wife, where your wife can wear anything that she likes, there will not be any objection on her in the new place where you live. After that whenever both of you will meet your parents, tell her to wear traditional dress again so that your parents will also feel good.
this is the solution I have for a happy life with your girlfriend or say future wife. Many of couples do the same to adjust with western culture and the culture followed by there family.
Good luck and happy life ahead!
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| Author: Veena Sharma 20 Jul 2012 Member Level: Diamond Points : 2 (Rs 1) Voting Score: 0 |
You are soon going to be her husband and it is obvious that se will be coming to your place after marriage. So it important that she should make your family comfortable and also she should also be happy.
So for this; you should make her understand that your parents means a lot to you; so never to hurt them and also make her feel special by taking her out and being with her if she have some problem.
It is you who can balance out with both the party; so be little diplomatic and rejected both your parents and to be wife's feelings.
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| Author: Anushree Srivastava 24 Jul 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 2 Voting Score: -1 |
Hey if this is a love marriage then you must be aware of her choices since starting and If you accepted her at that time then I guess you should not force her to change her dressing style. But I know it is really important. Firstly you can try to compromise between both parties. For example try to convince your parents that she will wear traditional dresses in family functions etc but in normal days she should be allowed to wear what she wants. Now try to convince her too that she can go for western dresses but which are decent and look smart to carry. Giver her options like, kurti leggings, long skirts etc. Start loving her very much, give her attention and care. And this issue will become very minor.
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| Author: boni jyothsna 30 Jul 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 3 (Rs 1) Voting Score: 0 |
First of all make it clear whether the kind of dresses your fiance wears are odd to look at. if they are odd to look then you have to tell her stop wearing them because it does not matter whether it is western or traditional, the only thing that matter is the way she looks by wearing those dresses and her comfort levels with those dresses. If it is not a bit exposing type and odd, she can wear those dresses. Above all she is your wife and she needs your support to allow her wear the type of dresses that she feels comfortable. On the other hand if the dresses are odd and exposing then you should ask her to stop wearing those because both of you (your wife and you) along with your parents should be ashamed when some body on the road comments at your wife by looking at her dressing style.
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| Author: k.balamuralikrishna 01 Aug 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 4 (Rs 3) Voting Score: 0 |
Hai my dear friend..!
I understood your situation very well.You cannot oppose your parents for your fiancee and also you could not order your fiancee for your parents.I suggest a better idea for you..!Convincing your fiancee is much better than convincing your parents.!am I right.? I hope so.
First of all,take your fiancee to a place where she likes.!Spend time with her more than usual.Do whatever she likes.At last,take her to a dress shop.Buy her two dresses . One should be traditional dress and the other should be western dress. Ask her to wear western dress first.Next is Traditional dress.Surely, she will ask which suits her.Tell her she looks like an angel in traditional dress .Delight her with more and more charming words and make her to feel traditional dress suits her more.Don't forget to deliver a hug during the time.
Then see the magic and post me the result..
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| Author: banu 02 Aug 2012 Member Level: Bronze Points : 3 Voting Score: 0 |
the situation you are facing is a generation gap. almost
all parents wants their daughter-in-law to be very traditional in all sorts whether it may be dressing,or something else.
ther are lots of styles in western outfits no girl in a city environment wear traditional dresses that doesnot make her feel good if she is working girl.
make both your parents and your girl to bit comprise. western wear should not cross limits which looks awakward.
explain the suitaion to wear traditional dresses while she is in home and convience your parents by explaining about the present scenario of culture
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