Can't matchup to my mom's expectation need advice
How to change my mother's uncalled attitude towards me? Why is the current status of a girl child in a family is so poor?
Hi, I am bit upset with my mother's behavior towards me for past years I am the only child and we are a middle class family in my house my dad and my self we both work but in spite of our job we still find it difficult to run the house hold as all the bill payments monthly ration and all nearly most of the salary goes off, actually I want to keep my dad at home in fact its my dream since I was studying that I will go to work and I will look after my parents enough of the hard work my father has done all this years but the actual picture was something else when I started working therefore my dad is still doing work and I really feel bad for that but my mom she is completely a different personality who keeps on eating my brains so fed up, she is like "how horrible you cook, how late you come from work only you work or what, look at others how early come,you don't do this you don't do that properly, what family you will make you are useless" and many more abusive words every single evening or if I am at home if I sit for a while she will come up with some or the other work for me and top of that taunt me saying what work you do you just go to office and do nothing, I do go to work and I work there nobody will pay me for free and my problem is I don't keep much interest in house work but this does not mean that I don't do house work I do but one problem is there and that is cooking I am a very bad cook I don't have that patience but still I try and I cook but its not that good my mom is a good cook she cooks very well but I can't cook like her or up to her expectation and for this I have listen lots of taunting bad words etc I am fed up of all this even my dad came to know that I actually can't cook even if I try but she does not understand, I don't remember a day where she thought me to proper something or told me any work very calmly always by loud voice or by firing bad words as mother I feel like telling her whats in my mind but I don't do as she listens like a mother at that moment but any other time if she is shouting or taunting at me she will bring up that topic again and taunt at me and therefore I don't tell her and I don't even eat what she prepares I know its not good to remove anger on food but what to do while eating also she keeps on taunting saying that I come and eat than I don't feel like eating in fact better that I don't. I know I am bad at cooking and at house work but it is not that I don't try but what to do if the results are not up to her expectation it hurts me a lot because she is my mom now I very often think am I really that bad or is it girls are really judged on how much of house work or cooking she knows and those who don't know are bad they can't make family or be good wife's or mother's is this the way a girl or a female is judged?