Solution for being in trouble with my aggressive wife
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I am 29 years old and I got married last year April 2016. Just after 2 months of marriage my wife started giving trouble to us. She behaves like a girls of 6/7 class student so immature. She was so pampered as she was the youngest girl in three daughters at her home.. She also has one younger brother. Her maternal family seems like as if every female should dominate husbands. She is also behaving in the same way.
I have seen her sisters also talking in a rude manner to their husbands one got married 6 years back and one got married 1 year back.
She always blames me that you are a mom's boy. Your mom always misguides you against me. When she fought for the very first time then she told me that if you want you can take divorce(just after 2 months of marriage). When I told this to her parents also she got scared. She always has a different face in front of different people. If a small fight happens between us,she always calls her father to take her home back and I do not want to stay with this guy. Very next day her father comes up to take her.
For very first time she went when all festivals come in August to November. Her friend and one of her sister always misguides her. My wife had done MBA(HR) and after that when her father does not allow her to work she did B.Ed. She studied just for sake of degrees. She does not show any sign of a modern era student neither in thinking nor in personality. She is very much orthodox in nature. She believes in all kind of old lady types superstitions. She always hide things because she feels najar lagjayegi.
I have never ever seen any of the MBA students like this. I helped her to search job in Gurgaon after marriage. She was not even aware of how to make resume. She was always got rejected because of lack of communication skills and personality.
She is pregnant now and running in her 8th month. Earlier she did not want a child. She thinks that she will not be able to use her freedom after this. All day she use games app and whats app. Hence I have decided that she become pregnant and divert her mind. But she is thinking it as a burden in her stomach because she loves only her self a lot.
She behaved properly in 4th and fifth month(she was at my home town with my mom and daddy) and later in her sixth month she was with me. When she realised that she has to go back again she started fighting with me. This time I drop her home she started indirect torture to my twin sisters. When she crossed her limits I spoke to her but she was like that I did nothing they you guys always blame me.
At time of marriage she was not aware of any house hold work because her life was always with mobiles and college.
Again she called her parents and the doctor asked her not to travel. Without any respect again she went back home for 2 days. Then my father told that it is not good if she will go like this again and again. Since she returned her health complications started due to travel. I was trying to move a head then even her parents asked her to keep calm and go ahead. She is not ready and daily she speak the same things in a bad way to me. She thinks that i want to take revenge and that she is binded by cultural facts. On call she always speak in bad language and records mine and my parents calls.
She is very aggressive, does kiddish things and always turn fingers towards you with many blames. Since \marriage I felt that she has short term memory loss. She always forgets things. She is not good in the house hold work and neither in jobs, nor in relationships. All she wants is to do her do things in her way.
Many times she told me why dont you take divorce if I am not your type. I tried my best to let her explore metro city, how we live how we behave but she is not ready to come out of her shell.I always discuss my problems with my parents when they are out of control. She says you tell out things to parents. I even tried not to tell them.
Now a days I am thinking of suicide. I searched ways on net for suicide but then because of my up coming baby I stop my self always. As this is my wish to have baby. She chats with every one on whats app and FB( net and mobile is most important to her more then a food)as she is on bed rest. She does not message anything to me and she says that when you will understand me I will message you. She never entered out of her house and she never faced people in society before. I am out from my home since 13 years and I have faced lots of things without parents.
I always wanted a working professional wife irrespective of her salary, but my father did not listen to me. He thought that if I marry a girl of small town, simple house and family below to us she will take care of everyone, will understand and respect everyone. But reality is not this. Working lady knows very well how to adjust and compromise on things.My parents are dealing with new new diseases day by day after my marriage. Even I have started falling sick on monthly basis. To sleep I started taking citrazen tabs( I have not told this to any one).
She tried many times to run away from house when she was with me in Gurgaon. I stopped her many times. She shouts in a very high voice every time, and even my landlord points to her many times.
I really need a help. I asked her to meet a physiologist doctor and we both will have counseling. She denied it.
Before my marriage I never had a fight with any one.
What to do now? She is very much immature and some times I feel as if I have married a teen age girl. since she asks for toffees and other child stuffs when we go for grocery stores. She tries to implement everything she watches in daily soap serials. She can not even speak a line in English. That is not an issue but on above of it such a high ego.
Can you help me?