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    How to avoid shyness and gain confident.


    Are you facing the problem of shyness? Here are the methods which can help you to overcome this problem.

    During my class if a lecturer asks question I get nervous. Hence I can't converse and share the thoughts and answers I know. So it will be embarrassing to me. I want to know how to get rid of this problem and avoid shyness. Due to this problem, the person conversing with me feel negative and may not like me or the way I converse.
  • #152247
    This is a question which is asked in many question forums and ask agony aunt sections and is really a challenging aspect to handle.

    The shyness comes in us either due to heriditary reasons or due to circumstances in which we are brought up.

    Dealing with this demon is a challenging and difficult task but is possible with persistently trying and making efforts in this direction.

    Until unless, the attribute of shyness is removed from the person he will time and again fall in it's trap.

    There are many methods recommended in books and literature but nothing works if you do not have a strong will power to win over this.

    One has to practice talking coherently and loudly in front of a mirror to see where are the deficiencies and bottlenecks are there. Talking frequently with classmates is also a way to gain confidence. More social interactions are also a good way to open up. Even bargaining in the crowded shops generates confidence in us.

    Do not feel shy of doing mistakes. Even the great scientists and philosophers did blunders. So go ahead and talk loudly and frankly.

    Knowledge is power.

  • #152249
    Things that you should stop doing from today to not to be shy around people.
    *Avoid bullies and teases
    *Do not tell there is no need to advertise your shyness
    *Keep it light
    *Change your tone.
    *Stop self-disruption
    *Avoid the Label
    *Know your strength
    *Choose relationships carefully
    *Avoid thinking alot

    If you want to go from shy to confident, you first need to put yourself out there in order to meet new people. Put yourself in social situations and practice speaking. Watch sandeep maheshwari videos and motivational videos for being confident. Believe in yourself if you wants to be confident. Always try to be happy. Control your life. Do not seat alone without any work for long time. Just be what you are thats it. Don't think i'm looking good or not. Just focus on those things which is important. Don't think about others. Do what you like. Do not do what others like to do.

  • #152255
    There are many people having this type of problem. It is mainly due to not having confidence in yourself. The person who thinks always that his answer may be wrong or people may laugh at him if he is wrong may not be able to talk and suffer from this feeling. You can practice the following points to overcome this problem.
    1. You should be Confident in your actions. It comes through learning, practice, action and mastery. When you start learning a cycle riding initially you feel it difficult. But once you start learning and practising you will become more confident. Same is the case here also.
    2. You should start participating in small talks with various people and talking to strangers at bars, stores, sporting events and other places. Take some chances and put yourself out there to meet new people.
    3. Take on a difficult task at work or learn a new skill. Do something to get out of your comfort zone. By practising new activities, you will get out of your fear of the unknown and be learning to handle that anxiety more effectively.
    4. Start practising giving speeches or presentations and telling jokes or stories at every opportunity. Be more talkative and expressive in all areas of your life.
    5. Make yourself vulnerable. Being vulnerable requires a willingness to let others see the real you. Be proud of what you are. Being genuine and vulnerable is often the quality that others will appreciate the most about you.
    6. Make eye contact when talking to someone. Walk with your head held high. Project your voice clearly and effectively.
    7. Be present to all of your thoughts, feelings, sensations, and memories in any given moment. There is no part of your experience that you have to run from, escape, or avoid.

    By following the above points you will overcome your shyness and you will be successful.

    drrao
    always confident

  • #152269
    My suggestions -
    1. Start articulating your thoughts at home. Pick up any topic and think about it. What will you say if you were asked to speak on that topic? Write down your answer if needed but make the clear for yourself.
    2. Select a close friend and spend some time every day with him/her discussing some topic of mutual interest. This way you will at least feel safe and be able to share your thoughts openly.
    3. Start talking to the mirror. Just say what you feel aloud. Look into your eyes and talk.
    4. Read the newspaper loudly. Practice this every day. This way you will speak and get used to your style of speaking. The first reservations will be over before you step into the public.
    5. Motivate yourself all the time. Tell yourself to not be shy of the world. Remember each one has his own struggles. No one is perfect and it is absolutely alright to be insecure or uncomfortable sometimes.

    Remember we are all good in our own ways. All the best !

  • #152276
    Your shyness may be due to your initial bringing - up where guardians enforce strict disciplines which ultimately causes a change in one's personality and shyness,too, is the result of over enforcement of the strict discipline. However, to come out from the present impasse, you need to have strong will power and determination to reverse the present complex. You would be required to change the existing phase gradually by doing the following things-
    1) In case, you have any superiority - complex thinking always that people may not approve of your thoughts and ideas. Don't feel guilty with your honest representation of your feelings.
    2) You need to put forth your ideas in writing point by point so that you may not forget the emotions entire points while deliberating in public.
    3) Confidence can be enhanced by seeing your image while conversing by means of a mirror placed on your front. This would give you an idea how you look when you are indulged in a public - meeting.
    4) Be honest to your feelings without having any emotions dampening your spirit.
    5) Regular reading of News- paper would enhance your skill of the presentation of the facts. You will be familiar with the usage of new words, syntax and phrases to be used in course of conversation.

  • #152285
    Shyness is an inherent trait but with continuous efforts and training one can get rid of it.

    It is more of a psychological disorder and a behavioural problem.

    This problem is to be tackled in a slow and gradual pace as it can not be corrected overnight.

    The best course of action is to consult a psychologist who will give the correct remedial action and guidance in the matter.

    Strong will power is also a pre-requisite for getting rid of this mental frame.

    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

  • #152321
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    your shyness may be you are hestitating towards certain objectives.this would be many reasons like if you are afraid, if you have inner shy.so i will suggest you to get rid of your fears by speaking very confidentally and keep your posture in the right. And speak very smoothly.
    By Determination one can Accomplish anything

  • #152322
    You have to be more proactive and express like you talk with parents. Just be polite and whatever you know speak clearly. Another way is to start discussions on various things of study and general knowledge with friends that way you will be more vocal and decision maker. Most important students get shy because of their attire, how they look , staring of other students so basically you need to think that it's only last chance to speak up irrespective who is watching and listening. All the best.
    Avi
    Life Is Beautiful

  • #152375
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    In this article am going to cover two main questions which are1) how to get rid of shyness and 2)how to be more confident.
    so, firstly i want to tell something that the shyness is a natural feeling which is very common in humans and it is a feeling of not willing to show yourself to someone in mentally and emotionally so this is not a problem when the shy levels are normal in moderate but the problem comes when they are going high if someone have a bit more shyness which is making him feeling discomfort in talking to some opposite gender or with any higher officials then they need to think of how to get rid of this problem and move forward by not loosing any opportunity of staying behind this is thing we need to stay clear about shyness. so here are some three most powerful tips which will help you get out of this over shyness.
    1) Try to face situations in which you are very shy , because most of the studies say that being constantly being involved in a situations your not comfortable with make you better by getting interaction with those situations .
    2) Get of being in head too much but of course you need to be in head at some time being to much will make you nerves which makes you shy so avoid it.
    3) Think of not being shy and never forget the great quote "fake it till you make it" it really works .
    so these are my three main tips to get rid of too much shyness .

    The next question which is how to be confident , confidence will make you be good in thing which you do in all day long like everyday tasks which you perform like talking some opposite gender for going to a date or anything like that there are many thing which make your task great with that little sprinkle of confidence.so here are the main five tips to make you 10 times more confident .
    1) eliminate negative people from your life, In a study there have prove that being surrounded by positive people the confidence levels have been raised in a drastic way.
    2) complement others this a trick which helps in making comfortable social.
    3) Train your brain to be confident by praising your self this is a technique which is mostly used by the great speakers who give long speech sessions, it is one of the greatest confidence boosters.
    4)Be social responsible and do some social service which is a good thing that will also give you a boost of confidence.
    5) Look at your self and think about being confident about your self which are like how would are day be when your super confident and try to motivate your self this will also make you feel better about your self and help in being confident.

    By this i wanted to conclude that try these all tips which will defenetlly amke a certain difference in you by folloing these tips in a long term it will benefit you.

  • #152406
    It is not the matter affecting you only but in many students as well passed-outs have the nervousness. This is because of lack of close contacts. In your class itself you select some food persons, wantonly talk to them and make as friends. As and when you find time speak with them freely about any topic and later jump to the subjects also.
    Sometimes you can speak yourself by assuming you are having somebody before you or even before a long mirror. Above all you should develop yourself the confidence as you are not inferior to any one around you. But your confidence should be with a level and you should keep yourself not to be overconfident.


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