What is your reaction when you hear 'I do not want to disturb you' etc.,Myself and my wife were planning to go to a relative's house in Coimbatore. We were waiting inthe platform for the trains arrival. A couple who were by our side talking themselves something and in the middle, I happened to hear from the lady that,'We should not disturb them in the night ,so we will finish our dinner in some hotel and go'. The man also nodded his head. By hearing this I told to my wife, for this these people would have stay in some lodge rather than going to relative's houses. Then we board in the train on its arrival and it was so happened that couple were also near to us in the
coach. I told my wife as if to hear by them that,'see, we will straightly go to mani's (my brother)house as he will be waiting for lunch with us, if we finish our lunch in outside this would be insult the relationship'. (really it is my thought always). By hearing this, they got paled in their faces and that lady told me that,'I hope you would have heard my words, because we do not want to disturb them int the night'. I replied,'No, aunty, if you are going to their house as relative they definitely waits for you and if have some commercial mind, your idea may be right and if you really do not want to disturb them, you should have stayed in some lodge and visit their house for a minute'. They kept quite for a while but immediately after a half an hour time, a call came in their mobile by asking them to wait in the station and they are bringing car for them. Their face got further paled.
My view is if we are thinking them as relative really, they will also think alike.
Similarly in one house we went, without wasting time, my wife went inside to help them in kitchen. The sister in law of their house told my wife,'No, No bobby, you will help today but who will do this work tomorrow, I only, you know, please let us do this work'. My wife got panic and came out to the hall calmly. I consoled her by saying some people like that.
Many people do not know such basic etiquette . Please share your views.