In Tamil there is a saying as,'Viralukkuth thankuntha veekkam' which means the swelling should be according to the size of finger, that is if the finger of one is swell more than a limit this would be a danger. Accordingly one's spending should be within a limit,here the limit is according to the person and his necessity. An ordinary man may be in a position to spend more than a level when he met some situation but in that also he should hold some control. In the seasonal times such as Deepavali, Pongal many people purchase dresses for their family persons but in some family some people make the purchases more than their limit.
The marriages also should be solemnized with purchase of needy items without considering the formality rather both the family heads could discuss about the items to be bought as per the formality. We could not cut away the formality as if others talk in general but the repeated items could have been avoided after having a good discussion with the other party heads. We,in our relative's marriage, as there was a formality of buying cot,almirah bedrolls,diamond earrings according to their side. We discussed with the bridegroom's parents, the items to be purchased before buying . They appreciated our approach and told to avoid buying the cot and almirah as they already possessed in their house. As for as the diamond earrings, let the couple decide and if they are not interested that also may be left. So the marriage went without any purchase of double items.
In such a way the expenses could be controlled with mere talking with the other side, with the spouse when one makes the purchase etc., Putting a second thought before buying an article to the house is good one to curtail expenses. We cannot construe the term of extravagance here as one may be need to one and the same may be an extravagant to another.