'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
Just a day ago, I read in a news report that friends were taken by the police to know the whereabouts of their friend who eloped with a girl of another religion. The friends claim that they really did not know about that at all.
Why even think that bad and negative aspects will always win over the right? What if you by your actions and standing up for what is right is so good that it inspires a lackadaisical person to improve his life? That's what good leaders are made up of.
Of course, if one is so weak minded that he gets affected easily by every bit of wind that blows by, it is better to stick to places and people where he can learn from until such a time you are daring to break out of the mold. It is always easy to stick to the routine of non-eyebrow raising aspects of life, and be taken for granted, and be predictive, and so on.
Expanding the circle of friendship to include others can improve others who are not well trained as you are in any matter, like etiquette, manners, polite speaking, life skills, etc. Military trainers often have to deal with a bunch of sassy people and have to train them into products of discipline and effectiveness. Teachers often deal with children from various backgrounds and still try to bring them up into responsible and educated young people. They trainer or teacher is a failure when they do not make any effort to uplift their wards. Same for us if only stick with those we feel comfortable with and make no step towards bringing about positive changes where needed.
A mature mind may think whether the acts are good or bad. But in a tender age students will have lot of impact from their co students and teachers. Practicing bad habits is very easy but imbibing good habits is very difficult. Another aspect is if one is in the company of bad friends, others will think he is also bad. There is a saying in telugu which means even though you are drinking milk under a tadi tree, viewers will think that you are drinking tadi only.
Karna is a very good person. He is a great donor. Even Though he knows that donating his original body cover and earrings will do lot of damage to him, he preferred to keep up his word and donated. But in the company of duryodhana, dussasana and shakuni he suffered a lot and finally got defeated.
So bad friends are not advisable for anybody.
However, if you are mature enough to differentiate between good and bad, you should be able to break yourself from such people. After all, you are a human being and are not forced to mingle with the "bad fruit" if you don't want to.
Live....and Let Live...!
Nor should it be that the other person would necessarily influence you to go down the same path. Eventually, if your own good core values are very strong and your principles are firm, nothing can shake you down. You can simply stay away from such company if you are uncomfortable and not merely because you are afraid of being influenced.
Also, as Bala said, it is possible that you could be the one to change that person's life for the better. From your behaviour that person could improve in manners and attitudes, may even eventually give up unhealthy habits.
When people come at you with their worst, you should come at them with your best (advice given to Selena Gomez by her mother, quoted in Time magazine.)
In the society there are good people, there are bad people. It is not necessary that all of your friend be good. One should try to avoid bad company as far as possible because the effect of company on a person is inevitable.
During the student life this becomes more crucial as in the tender age the mind is polluted much faster than that of a grown up and matured person. That is the reason why parents are cautioned and are advised to keep a watch on the company of their children.
When a person keeps a bad company for a long time many indecent things are deeply planted in his subconscious mind and he can not get rid of them throughout his life. The danger of bad company is disastrous.
On the contrary a good company generates motivation, encouragement, will to progress and positive thinking. Why we go to saints and philosophers for consultations ? The reason is obvious - to get solutions for a more positive life.
Knowledge is power.