But the big problem is that the common man who hardly has money to spend on marriage are ready to take the loan for marriage expense. It should not happen. So the limit on marriage expense should impose by law.
Well done is better than well said
When it comes to fat wedding they are equal to dowry. For example in dowry man pays money to another man. And it becomes crime. In fat wedding man spends his saving for wedding and it becomes shagun for daughter. More expensive the wedding, the more love parents are showing towards kids is an assumption. Just like dowry even fat wedding affects the pocket of someone, it could be either father of bride or the father of groom. If the couple is spending their own money then fair enough. But using parents money for fat wedding is such worst thing anyone could do.
I have seen women opposing dowry but I have yet to meet a single woman who opposes fat wedding. Almost every woman likes fat wedding, because it's about them. Not about money going to dowry. So they don't feel like opposing.
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
The irony is no one is ready to do it simply. Even the lower class wants to celebrate in the best possible manner whether he has to take a loan for it. It is question of ones prestige !
If we go back in time the tradition of marriage is linked to shift of the girl to boys house and in this process the brides father gives some money and jewellery to the daughter as she is practically leaving her father's house for good and father also entertains the guests who have witnessed the ceremony.
With time this basic procedure changed to cruel world of dowry and pomp and show.
Rich people are hell bent that other people see their affluence in such functions and leave no stone unturned in making the marriage a grand show.
Politicians are one step ahead. They mobilize all the business people whom they have favoured on such occasions and do not hesitate to offer week long fun parties to whole of their village or even town.
Such extravagance is highly infectious and in a bid to outstand from the friends and relatives people go to any extent.
The outcome is disastrous and the middle and lower class are the victims who have not such big means to fund the grand marriages of their children but are forced to copy in a expensive but shabby show off.
Knowledge is power.
Spending million on defense equipment. How do we think all those terror groups get their munitions which they can neither produce nor buy? It is fueled by big businesses and States who do not want stability in the world. So spending a few millions on ones daughters wedding is not much of a problem or a social issue. If you have it flaunt it. That have been the credence since time immemorial.