Ambitious parents ruin the lives of their childrenWhy do parents push their children into achieving the impossible? Why don't they just let their kids follow their dreams?
I was distraught to see what a parent's 'pushing' has done to his daughter. Someone, we became friends with a few years ago had declared that he would make his daughter a doctor. It didn't matter that the child wanted to study law. This was a few years back when the child was still in school.
Soon, he enrolled his daughter in an institution, in a small town, known for coaching medical aspirants. The child could not cope with the pressure, of studying from 4:30 in the morning till late into the night, with no time for recreation. She suffered a breakdown, but the relentless father kept pushing her. She was put on anti-depressants, removed from the hostel, but continued her studies as a day scholar. Her mother took a house close to the school, to be with her.
Few years down the line. The child's life is a mess. She couldn't get into medical school and is enrolled in a veterinary college. Nothing wrong with that, but the child didn't want to be a vet. She is also severely allergic to animal dander and hay. She's again on drugs, steroids to be precise, to keep the allergies at bay.
I met her last night – the steroids have had a terrible effect on her. She is bloated and her skin has an unhealthy colour. Over dinner she told me, I wish my parents were like you. She used to be such a bubbly, cheerful girl. Now she sits hunched, quietly. And yes, the father has more plans for her. He wants her to graduate and then specialise in camels, so she can work with camels in West Asia.
Why don't parents let their children live their lives?