'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
But not costly gifts.
Gift is to express your happiness and wishing the other person for their well being. We should not count the value of a gift on its value.
Earlier days we are receiving physical greeting card for new year and other occasions. Now a days they are replaced by e greeting cards.
Another criteria in accepting or giving costly gifts is reciprocation. If somebody gives us a costly gift, when there is an occasion we may have to give him almost the same value gifts. I have observed this more in marriages. They make a list of gifts received and the details. Next time when they have to give a gift to that particular person it should be of almost same level.
I would also consider some other type of expensive gift such as a very high quality travel bag or handbag or even a book (again if within my budget) for a friend only if it is a best friend. Also, this would be only if the occasion warrants it, such as a really wonderful celebration, like a silver wedding anniversary or a 50th birthday.
However, I would not be willing to accept myself any expensive gifts from any friend as I would be very uncomfortable doing so. I would try my best to persuade the friend to take it back without hurting her feelings and at the same time make it clear that any such gifts even in future are just not acceptable to me. It is different from accepting an expensive gift from a sibling or a much loved aunt, which would be accepted for its familial love & affectionate gesture, but in the case of a friend, no way!
When people come at you with their worst, you should come at them with your best (advice given to Selena Gomez by her mother, quoted in Time magazine.)
No life without Sun
Whatever small number of gifts I had received and accepted till this day were from very close relatives on some very relevant occasions and they were all not costly also. The only gold gift we received in our home was a small gold chain(baby chain) for my son's first birthday from a close relative. All other gifts were utility items usable at home for day to day life. I have also received small amounts of money on a few occasions, which put together in all till date may not exceed the single digit in thousands.
When I give gift also, I see and assess the need and style of the receiver. Accordingly I gift small amounts of money or utility items which could be packed as gift packet.
For close relatives I had gifted home appliances , utility items, gold coins etc relevant to the occasion and their realistic need.
The greatest wealth in this world is mental peace and good health.
'Not to know is bad; not to wish to know is worse'- African Proverb
No life without Sun
The stronger a light shines the darker are the shadows around it.