if a person starving for days together will be happy if he gets some food. A person living in rented house will feel happy if he gets a own house. But if he starts comparing himself with a person who is having two houses, he will start feeling unhappy and try all means to get more many. No happiness. So contentment is the key to happiness.
Most of the people are happy when materialistic gains are achieved. Some are happy with their academic pursuits. There are others who are happy with their kin and kith. So it varies from individual to individual as to what makes them happy.
There are people who are in general more happier and more contended than others. Their secret lies in their life style. They control their desires and try to live within their means and do not exert unnecessary for unwanted indulgences. Some of these people go for daily yoga and puja (worshipping ) sessions which help them in concentrating and managing time positively.
I personally believe that peace of mind is a primary requisite for happiness.
Knowledge is power.
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
1)A King who seeks the happiness in him asked his minister to search for a happiest man in his reign. The minister searched and find a man with full happiness but poor in status. He brought the person before the king. The King asked the person how it would be possible to be with full happiness. The man without any word to reply to make the king to understand, gave a suggestion to wear his shirt for attaining happiness. The king amidst the intervention of the minister collected his shirt by giving some other shirts in lieu. After wearing the shirt also the king was not felt happy and again called the person but seen that the same person with same happiness with his (kings)shirt. The man then told him that the happiness in one is only within himself.
2.A famous speaker told this in one meeting. I narrate the information in his way.Once I went to some hilly place by a town bus. I got a seat in the last row and felt uneasy when the bus moves on the hill and turnings. For my surprise, soon, I got a seat in the front side as another passenger got down in that stop. With satisfied mind but with some curiosity, I turn back who is suffering in that last seat, where I sat before. I just got cheated by my eyes as there a couple were sitting and enjoying the seat through its turnings and jerks. The same seat gave uneasy to me but happiness to that couple. I then realized that the satisfaction and happiness is not in the seat but in our mind and taking way only.
As told by the speaker the happiness is in our hand only. Living alone (singly) is a joy to one but sorrow to another.
'Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is Enlightenment'- Lao Tzu
Happiness is but absence of suffering, right? Then there are two similar sounding paths to eliminate pain.
One prescribed by Buddha- end the desire. Desire is the cause of pain.
Other prescribed by Shiva- be indifferent to your surroundings. By expecting nothing and accepting everything we can finally achieve eternal happiness.
I follow both the paths. Unfortunately I still haven't found peace yet. Hope I will if I keep practicing.
The stronger a light shines the darker are the shadows around it.