My response to your thread - The marriage feast is the best in Indian marriages.
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But now a days other things are becoming more important. The main course that is carried out by the priest is not attracting the audience. Videographers and photographers take a lead and everybody will concentrate on these items only.The marriage system is designed in such a way that both the bride and bridegroom will get bonded for their life time. No need for big halls, big stages,hefty arrangements for lighting and decoration. Lot of wastage of food is another problem. If we manage these things within limits and give importance to the rituals, Hindu marriage methodology is the best way.
Hindu way is the most awesome and is nowadays even preferred by westerners. Unlike other cultures our marriages aren't all that serious. We have a lots of fun dancing and playing around. Every sense is aroused by different elements.
Fragrance of flowers and incense sticks, visual grandeur, mouth watering cuisine, awesome music and hymns at the same time and a touch of new and expensive clothing. But I think it's the food and games that dominate all other elements. We play different games in order to make bride and groom feel home and comfortable with each other. And the food. We are a nation of diversity. So is our food. That's exactly what I love about India. Indian cuisine is a cocktail of every cuisine ever!
All these make a festive atmosphere and draw happiness.
The stronger a light shines the darker are the shadows around it.
You have said that rituals should be given importance. My question is - In spite of the well conducted rituals during the marriage ceremonies, why do the couple suffer with divorces, why do they suffer without children? In which way the rituals and chanting of vedic slogas and mantras help the couple in their life?
I am sure, marriages performed without any rituals goes well, and the couple lead a very happy and healthy life on the earth. I don't think rituals are important. It is a time passing/pulling event during a marriage ceremony.
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Once the ground work was over the marriage ceremony was conducted usually by a priest with all the rituals and traditions with a belief that if everything is done as per traditional and religious procedures the life of the married couple will be happy and trouble free. During these marriages the parties spent money as per their capacities and tried to entertain their friends and relatives as per the facilities available.
With time, the materialism and modernisation changed the scenario and the traditional and cultural rituals were pushed to backstage and pomp and show took its place and today unfortunately it is totally the money which is showing its color throughout the ceremony. Now the people who can afford, do it happily and enjoy along with their friends the occasion but the middle class and poor class unnecessarily join the wagon of exyravaganza and reel under financial pressure.
No doubt, people in general enjoy these functions but the evil beneath the ceremony is painful.
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