'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
Once I am traveling in a bus and a passenger by my side asked whether the bus would go to Narayanapuram, I told yes. When narayanapuram nearing, I told him that we are nearing Narayanapuram. He immediately sullen on me with the words,I know, mind your way. I got shocked.
We used to see on roads alert the drivers of the vehicles coming in the opposite direction with burning light. When we see the door of the running car is not properly shut, we are intimating. Similar to this the free advice and suggestions.
Overall, my view on this topic is free advice and suggestions are always correct as the elders and experienced persons do have duty to prevent others from panic.
But as pointed out by Ms. Sushma, some people give suggestion on personal matters even without we ask. These suggestions are definitely unwanted. If some body gives an advice on our dressing without our asking, we will definitely get annoyed. Similarly many times many people will be giving unsolicited advice. I feel definitely these advices create headache to other side.
I always advice anybody, only if it is asked for.
The stronger a light shines the darker are the shadows around it.
This is sometimes very embarrassing as the person at receiving end feels offended also.
It is very correct that we must not give unasked advice to the people. If a person needs it and knows our capability he will come and ask for it.
There are occasions in life when we are in problem and want advice. Such times if a person comes and starts to suggest us something foolish we will be mislead and will be in problem.
That is the reason why many people start ignoring these type of advisors.
Knowledge is power.
Slightly more than an year back, there was another thread which had same core point. There in my response #556414 I had put similar views,
and I quote:.
"Suppose you are travelling by your car. A car coming from opposite side blinks and beeps indicating some alert to you. He has just seen some traffic problem on the up lane by which you are driving. He wants to suggest you take a turn and take a deviation, otherwise you will be trapped in the traffic jam.
Should he give you this unsolicited suggestion or simply mind his business and leave you to your fate?" Unquote
Sometimes unsolicited advice also may be essential. Such advice are like Gooseberry -first sour and then sweet. Many good things in life too may be irritating at first but the end will be sweet and pleasant.