When we get success society congratulates us and when we fail we have to listen to so many unpleasant voices. So the pleasure and pains both are there.
We require support from society many times and sometimes society asks our help in terms of financial or other helping attributes. So it is a reciprocal system and it thrives as long as we are not hostile towards society.
Society peeps into your personal life also whether you like it or not. Sometimes you feel miserable but it is all in the game and as rightly said - man is a social animal- no doubt we are.
Knowledge is power.
I is like an overworked person yearning for leave, but an unemployed person yearning for a job. The grass on the other side is always green.
Life will be miserable without the hindrances and interference caused by others. Eating sweet alone will make us sick and bored within a short time. We need , salt ,sour and bitter also. Then only life will taste god.
I always like to be lonely in the crowd. I can be alone to myself amidst the jostling crowd. Without that crowd, hustle and bustle I feel totally empty and hollow, a fish out of water.
You can't snatch your life from the clutches of society. If you try to do so, in tougher times you cannot survive.
People need other people to survive. Anyone doesn't believe this is deceiving themselves. We are evolved to live in a society
There are unspoken rules in a society and we are internalized to such a degree that we don't even notice them such as how to dress, eat, talk and even what you allow you to feel. Following norms can be costly sometimes for some individuals.
There are two extreme cases:
There are over socialized individuals who are willing to make extreme sacrifices for the group. Example: Suicide bombers and other displays of extreme self-sacrificial behavior for the group.
Likewise, there are under-socialized individual who are completely immune to any social norms.
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
In actuality some people wish that they would remain in the society, do whatever they like and society would accept their behaviour without any comment/protest. That is simply not possible.
Non-violence is the greatest Dharma; So too is all righteous violence.