Lend the ear. But make your decision.When we have some problems to solve, it is our nature to ask experienced people or elders. If you ask many people each one of them will give their own opinion or solution. Finally you are confused.
So whatever may be the problem it is always better to hear what others say, but final decision is yours only. Each of their suggestions will be based on their thought process. They may not have the full understanding of the problem. So what older people say is whether you ask or don't ask many people will tell you many ideas. Hear all those ideas. Use your brain and analyse those ideas with respect to your context. Implement the solution which you feel is the best. It may be your idea or somebody else's Idea. Do you agree?