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    Are diplomatic people more popular than those who are honest and straight forward?

    There are some people who talk straight and in clear manner and many people get offended with such behavior. People generally do not like honest and direct talks and sometimes are hurt also. It may look strange but it is the practical aspect.

    There are people who are very diplomatic and will convey the point or matter in a pleasing manner so that the other person gets the message and also feels happy with that person.

    What is your view in this matter?
  • #601543
    Diplomatic people are not necessarily dishonest as is being indicated. They just have a different way of putting their point across than one who is more straight forward, the former doing so in a manner that deals with the issue in a more sensitive and thoughtful manner.

    As for the stakes in a popularity contest, I don't think there is anything like that. From one context to another, it will more likely be as to what is acceptable and what is not. In one scenario, it will be greatly liked that the person was blunt and straight forward, while in another scenario, the person at the receiving end will be glad that the matter was dealt with tactfully. In the case of a really close friendship or other relationship, neither should affect the relationship. In the case of certain kinds of relatives or in an office workplace, relationships can and do get affected. Thus it is not a matter of popularity, but of the end result.

    When people come at you with their worst, you should come at them with your best (advice given to Selena Gomez by her mother, quoted in Time magazine.)

  • #601549
    Every time we can't be diplomatic or every time we can't be straightforward. Always we should act as per the situation. In one given condition the person may react one way in another condition the same person may react in a different way. The reaction depends upon the opposite person also. Some people they don't receive the message when we try to convey indirectly so that he may not get hurt. In such case we may have to go straight forward.
    Some people say, yesterday I came to your house to meet you, but you were away. But some people put it in a different way. Yesterday I tried to meet you, I even came to your house but I couldn't come to you when you were in the house. It is conveying the same meaning. But there is a lot of difference in conveying the matter.
    Diplomatic people are also honest. Honesty is nothing to with straight forwardness or diplomatic. So let us not bring in honesty here. Popularity may be more for diplomatic people they are conveying message to be conveyed without making the others hurt. But always diplomatic method may not be possible these days. Human Relations is a big subject which is very complex,

    always confident

  • #601550
    When it comes to popularity, straightforward people win it. Why? Because they are in the news always. People gossip good or bad about them incessantly. But there isn't much to tell about a diplomat. They keep a distance from people and only talk when necessary.
    They're respected but are not popular.
    Popularity demands attention and respect demands devotion.

    The stronger a light shines the darker are the shadows around it.

  • #601558
    Yes what I feel that diplomatic people are popular and famous than the hardworking and straight forward persons. Why because the diplomatic persons have learned the trick of mingling with all as per their requirement and thus made a strong name in the minds of others. Some times they do some personal work of others and get their overwhelming acceptance and liking and thus even they do some mistake and mischief it is not believed and taken light. That is the reason being so some diplomatic persons would survive under any circumstances with whom ever they behave.
    K Mohan
    'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
    Even this challenging situation would ease

  • #601567

    There is a verse of wisdom in Sanskrit:
    'Satyam brooyaat priyammbrooyaat,
    Na broyaat satyamapriyam';
    Priyam naanrutam broyaat,
    Easha dharmah sanaatana:"

    That is yes say the truth, but say it in a way that is pleasing(not hurting),never say truth that will cause hurt'. Never say untruth even if it is pleasing, that is the eternal dharma or duty.

    In our daily life we have to face situations where the truth has to be accepted as there is no alternative and it is final. We may have to convey that truth to others. We have to convey without hiding or suppressing the truth, but in such a way that it does not shock or cause much hurt to the concerned and they are able to accept the truth.

    Common examples are doctors who treat critically ill patients, lawyers who deal with sure-to-fail cases etc. The doctor who is sure that the patients has almost no chance to recover,cannot convey tat truth in a blunt manner. He may use very selected words like' patient is very critical. Patient has to be under ICU and observation for next 36 hours. But we are taking all care possible by us. We will try our best. Rest is with God".

    A lawyer may tell" The case is very difficult. The opposition advocate can find a lot of loopholes. But do not worry, our office will make it such a tight case that opposite side finds it difficult Then let the court decide.".

    A story used to illustrate this : The King summoned an astrologer to see his young son's horoscope and predict about future. Seeing the horoscope the astrologer found that the King is having a short life span. But he cannot say the truth so brazenly. So he said that the horoscope says good things. The prince will be taking to the throne quite young and rule for many years .
    Here Truth is said in a pleasing way, but truth is not hidden nor untruth told.

  • #601572
    In my view, no one likes a completely diplomat person. It is true that these people comfort us but after a certain point it becomes very irritating. Sometimes you feel like you don't even know that person whom you consider as your friend.
    Also, no one likes a completely blunt person who tells the truth no matter what. Sometimes, comforting lies are better than the bitter truth.
    So, a person who knows when to be diplomatic and when to tell the truth is more popular and likeable.

    Don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff.

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