Instead, why don't we children spend on the marriage expense which can be shared by the groom and the bride and not by the families? Our parents have already done their best by educating us and have made us capable enough to earn. Simple marriages with minimum expenses or lavish marriages or registered marriage, its the choice of the people who are getting married. If the couple comes forward to bear the expense or if at all required they can take the loan in their names and later on repay it in their own sweet time instead of the parents taking up the loan for marriage expense.
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
The decision of spending for marriages has to be taken by the both the parties involved. An important point to note is no one should take loans for the marriage expenses. By both the sons got married. Both are arranged marriages only. No dowry. I have spent money from reserves for both the functions. I have not taken any loan. So the method of marriage should be decided by both the parties involved.
Yes, in middle class family it gets tough to do marriage with less money and parents have to take up loans for that but if we children take up the responsibilities, parents will not get burdened at that time.
Do what inspires you !!
Those who have money have full rights and privileges to perform the marriage in their houses with all fun and glory as it is also called pomp and show. What about those middle class and below middle class citizens who can not afford this type of expenses but due to social and peer pressure are forced to take loan or stretch themselves to unwanted limits.
This is very unfortunate that we are not able to come out of this black hole.
Knowledge is power.
Non-violence is the greatest Dharma; So too is all righteous violence.
Mahatma Gandhi asked us all t have simple life (and high thinking).
People who have the wherewithal and who want to put up a show of their wealth and status spend millions in celebrating birthdays of their pets. Those who have the capacity splash do not spare any occasion to celebrate. While many ordinary people open 'bottles' to celebrate, amply rich people spend money in any way to celebrate any occasion.To dictate simplicity only marriage is just typecasting. resorted to by media.
Marriage registration is mandatory and a legal requirements to establish and decide on various rights, duties and liabilities. If someone wills marriage can be concluded just by registering a marriage by complying with required formalities. But how many -including the bride - are willing to make it so simple? Each one in the family of both bride and groom will have their own aims, wish and interest in a marriage in the family. So the spend expands from the number of invitation card printed to the required capacity marriage hall , diner and party , then honeymoon etc. Nowadays marriages are made as packaged events.
When rich people spend the not-so-rich also want to imitate at least in a scaled down version. After all in what way they are inferior to the rich? All are equal i modern world. Individual lenders and credit institutions are there to lend for such purposes. So everybody is able to spend a lot on such events.
Even the most simple nowadays needs at least a few videographers to flash all those events in FB (live or otherwise)and other social media.
I am sure marriages will be more splashy and flashy in future. Unlike in the early days,the ease and frequency of divorce can, in future, give chances of celebrating more than one marriage in one's life and would help making them better than the previous ones.
Marriage event managing may become the most rewarding business in future. Guest may be entertained with lucky dips in reward for the 'likes' or some similar popularity measures. No way to see simple marriages.