Throughout my career I was extra cautious not to take any kind of help for me personally, from anyone even remotely connected ,whom I got connected only due to my job. This was for fear of the 'reciprocal expectations'' from me using my position in the job. I admit that it was was creating extra burden for me ,but I am satisfied that I could manage it well and those who came in touch with me knew my stand very well.
In my personal life I had one occasion when there was an explicit mention of the reciprocal expectations. It was from a relative from my wife;s family who wanted some financial help from us quoting what they did to my wife's parents long ago. The amount asked was beyond our means at that time and we could help them in part. But they were not satisfied and started calling us thankless. We have lost the money and their contact since then.
I generally do not take obligatory help of others as far as possible and in case I need at all, I take it as a business type dealing or take it in such a way that there won't be any residual in that and they will not expect anything from me as quid-pro-quo. While many people have offered to help me in getting something done fast or at a lesser cost, I have only taken the direct approach route. Many of my relatives go to the local corp orator,party officials etc for even small routine matters. I never do that unless it warrants that only they can do it.Of course I end up getting things a bit delayed or after a few reminders. But I am ready for that. Thank God, till now I never had to approach anyone for any undue favour.
The problem is that we may be taking a small help, but the reciprocal service may entail even illegal or roundabout ways or matters, which will embarrass us or erode our credibility. So I steer clear of such things. When I help someone, I do not expect anything in return, but will be happy to see their progress and prosperity only. If it is a financial help, I will write off the amount from my mind then and there.