Over the centuries, women have been harassed and suppressed in a lot of ways, but I don't understand the kind of misogyny that would compel a man to take something as trivial as ordering take-out for guests and turn it into some sort of debate designed to belittle and generalize women. It's not so much unwarranted as pathetic.
First of all, there's no comparison between the past and the present. It's called 'the past' for a reason. Awareness and technology weren't at their highest level at that time. There were no cell phones, T.V. didn't have a gazillion channels, and aside from work, read and gossip on the porch, there was a lot less to do than there is now. Spending time with friends and relatives was a more frequent and welcome occurrence then, than today where everyone stays in touch via WhatsApp and Facebook.
Adding to that, majority of the women at that time blindly did what they were expected to do, either because they didn't know any better or because they didn't know how to stand up for themselves. Making their men happy was their only goal because that's what the patriarchy demands.
You want Stepford Wives; patient and soft spoken, educated and intelligent but not more than you, someone who's always dressed to the nines, someone who blindly trusts you and has no significant opinions of her own, someone who will willingly sacrifice her life to make you and your family happy with nothing in return, because that's what she likes to do best, doesn't she? Cook and clean for you and take care of your children, with no regard to her own needs and desires.
But women are not malleable barbies. We're human, too. It's dangerous to label us as lazy and judge us all based on your wife's desire, or lack thereof, to cook for your relatives.
Besides, like Vandana said, what's wrong with ordering take-out for guests? What's wrong with wanting to be a good hostess not only in the kitchen but in the living room as well, taking an equal part in the conversation? What's so wrong with preferring to be informed or asked beforehand about a house visit? Guests don't know what kind of a day we've been having. They don't know if it's the right time to visit. They don't know if we've other plans or if, for whatever reason, we've decided to put everything aside for the day and just relax like we sometimes deserve!
We have cell phones now. Why not use them and ask if it's a good time to visit? Why not respect your wife rather than question her opinions and compare her to your mother? Why not stop complaining and lend a hand in the kitchen if you're so opposed to take-outs? In case you didn't know, men are allowed in the kitchen, too. Men can (and should) help out with household chores just like women today help out with finances.
Learn to treat us as equal. It can't be that hard.
You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.