Do you say Yes when your mind says No?If you Yes when you really mean to say No, then don't worry you are not alone because many people cannot say No outright.
A 5-year-old asks for a mobile to play, is adamant about having a new toy at the supermarket, parents want to say No but can't do it easily. You are in a hurry to leave the office, you co-worker smilingly slips you a couple of files, please do it, I have to go home. You say Yes but within yourself who are upset that you didn't say No.
This also applies to neighbours who frequently 'borrow' things (milk, sugar, umbrella, money), the boss asking for overtime when we have an important function at home, friends forcing us to have a smoke or a drink, peers cajoling a junior to try drugs, people blackmailing us with an emotional trump card.
Saying No is an 'Árt' because the normal, soft natured, good-hearted people find it challenging for various reasons, fear of upsetting the other person, the guilt of not lending a helping hand, misplaced loyalty and trust, fear of reappraisals, to maintain our good image etc.
But friends, It's perfectly normal to say No when we want to, It's just that we have to learn how to say it.