'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
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There were total 23 court cases between the couple (parents of master Vibhul) pending in various courts. The Court quashed seven cases, dismissed six others and disposed of seven cases in view of the agreed terms between them. The court also dissolved the marriage without making them to wait for the six months, the statutory cool-off period,
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I don't think that the reason for our parents to stay together should only be 'us', the children, ever.
It is because, there would then always be that atmosphere of unsaid tension, and in some cases, open disputes, which are sure to make children suffer mentally. It is better to try to resolve problems and if that is not possible, separating is the right thing to do. And that too, amicably.
Also, in India, most women, and also to a small number, men, restrain themselves from considering divorce from their spouses because they have children to look after. In case of women especially, having this kind of mindset might prove disastrous, because they are then willing to suffer every kind of torment, which is not usual in case of men. Seeing this itself affects their children mentally, because then they feel guilty for something for which should not be. It is very important for mental health of the children that their parents live together amicably, and if not possible, they separate amicably.
I personally feel that children become the casualties or collateral damage in most divorces. In this case what a harsh reality for the brother and sister, each one has to live with each parent.
Couples who lose focus or go through troubled times seriously lack professional help or are not willing to agree that they have differences. I think this is a major problem in India, the Government and society need to make marriage and family counseling more accessible and remove the taboos.
If a couple does reach a point of no return, they need to at least think of their children. Put aside their differences for a period wherein the child is at least able to understand. Imagine a 4-year-old young mind having to battle the trauma of separation living with mother and see his/her father once a week or a month. As parents, this is one of the worst forms of prolonged torture we can inflict on our own child/children.