I fee that the first step to correct this imperfection is to acknowledge the problem. If we acknowledge the problem, only then we can make conscious effort to minimize it.
Non-violence is the greatest Dharma; So too is all righteous violence.
But in some functions, I do see what the author has mentioned. This would create a wrong impression about the host and the other guests would certainly be annoyed. I've seen elders politely walk off when the host, who would also be a distant relative does this sort of pampering of the 'new rich' or 'recently rich' people.
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
Honesty is the best policy.
The rich people also my indirectly expect some extra preferences from the hosts.
So we should understand the situation the host faces that it is not to treat us any less, but only to be practically display or respond with gestures obligatory on him.
What can be the special treatment? Any member can explain.
To me, the special treatment would be - Going to the entrance and receiving them. Seating them in the front row. Pleasing much.
No life without Sun
Theoretically speaking, in any function or celebration, rich people should not be treated separately. It is not only out of etiquettes but embarrassing for all those present there.
Money is a strange entity and it brings many evils with it. Some of the rich people expect that they should be treated exclusively by the society. This creates a lot of division between people and the whole purpose of a function is converted into ill feeling and envy.
We must avoid such shabby show off of richness in social functions.
Knowledge is power.
Its a human behaviors that is full of conscience since our childhood days. You don't have a choice but this comes to us automatically. So if I figure it out then we will be attracted to someone who got more money rather then to someone not having that much money.
Pl. correct me if I am wrong.
While sending invitations we make categories & accordingly we go for the arrangements & do investments so to make the function attractive in order to lure the more capable persons. Even once surprised to witness that the tissue papers are kept separately to the VIP guests.