Humility: the Art of making others respect us, foreverA few days ago, the most successful franchise of the IPL, the Chennai Super Kings, (CSK), lost a match to the Mumbai Indians. It was a close match, but Chennai lost the match since it did not have the fifteen or twenty runs it normally gets, as a routine, after having batted first.
When the expert asked the CSK captain, the former India Skipper, Mr Dhoni, about the loss, he did not blame it on his team mates, as most captains do. Dhone is often referred to as Captain cool, or Mr. Cool. He merely said that it was a good thing to loose a match or two, as the team could identify what it missed and then make it up in the next match. He was decency personified, and never blamed the pitch or the opposition.
This is the best example of humility, from a well known celebrity.
How does one achieve humility?
Simple. A few ground rules will suffice. The first is to always think of life as a journey, not a destination. Closely aligned to this realization is that death snatches away everything from us, and hence the more we are good to us, the more everyone will remember us.
The second is to develop empathy and forget the "I". This is easier said than done, more so, in politics=dominated organizational cultures. However, even here, we can make a mark if we try.
Third, is the most important thing -- to ask for pardon, for our mistakes from anyone, big or small. This leaves a lasting impression on others.
The fourth rule is to smile, even in the most trying circumstances and exhibit positive body language. This will attract us to others, and make them respect us, as we will be seen as people on whom they can bank on, for help.
The fifth rule is to always think only about the good of others, and get them to work on their strengths only. Never comment on their weakness, unless asked for.
If we try the above rules, humility will become a way for us, and help us to maintain very good lives and relationships with others.