Protecting our children from negative influencesIn most families, it is commonly seen that children have nothing except the smart phone in their hands, and are engaged on endless chatting with their friends, even at the age of seven or eight. Most are members of some social media or the other, and those around fifteen years, seem to be so happy on Facebook, exchanging everything from the mundane, to private photographs and even cell phone numbers.
Facebook is not bad by itself. It has helped several people to re-unite after several years, and there are hundreds of people who have been lost and found, only through Facebook. In the 2015 massive floods in Chennai, it was Facebook that saved several lives, as the inputs alerted the various agencies in relief work.
It becomes very dangerous for women, only when even cell phone numbers are exchanged with strangers.
As parents, we have a huge duty to correct our children. Constant counseling can be of great help. When we lend a helping hand to children to do things that are extra-ordinary, when we help them to make new friends in the neighborhood and from our own known sources, they are more likely to keep away from making friends with strangers. It is totally unwise to become friends with total strangers. So, we need to be pro-active here.
Similarly, we need to be ever vigilant with our children on use of the smart phone. Not a single male, should take any photo of our girl children, in any private place. They should be told not to talk to any stranger, and accept any offer of coffee or cool drink and so on. Third-rate rascals are on the prowl. We should be very careful and spot any danger in this regard.
The former Chief Minister of Tamil Nadu, Ms Jayalalitha,. was the queen of corruption. Yet, one good thing she did was to ask women constables to constantly patrol bus stations and other public places to minimize any act of violence or any untoward incident. big cities like Chennai or Coimbatore, are quite safe for women only because of such measures. So, wherever possible, our girl children should be taught all the methods of self-defense.
Similarly, we also need to understand that there is a great danger by watching the worst of TV serials in any language. Parents need to avoid such serials, for the larger benefit of children. For, if the parents themselves watch these serials, the children will naturally not respect the parents or their advise.
Keeping a tag on every email exchanged by our children can also help our children in this regard. We should be careful not to do a police job. But, most children tend to obey and respect parents, when they start understanding the meaning of such advise.
The list goes on. Members may also share their own personal experiences in this regard.