Parents, please do not discriminate, or compare, among childrenThis is a true life story. The names are not mentioned, but the story continues to this day.
A particular upper middle class family of Tiruchirapalli, had the father working in a famous Public Sector organization, well known for its HR policies. He rose through the ranks, and did so well in HR.
He had three sons and the single daughter, who was the youngest in the family. The first two sons did not study so well, but landed in fairly good jobs. They each had two children, a son and a daughter as well. The first son ensured that the daughter got married to a professional in the USA.
The third son, landed in a job that took him abroad and, with some luck, landed in the USA. The daughter was married to a superb professional, based in Dubai.
The mother of the children, unfortunately, gave a huge amount of importance to the last two children, which became more pronounced after all the children got married. Even they were young, she would constantly praise the third son, as if he were a big hero. The daughter was pampered by both parents, even before marriage.
Even when the grand children came together, the grand mother had a special praise for anything that the children of the third son and the daughter did. The hurt was telling.
The grandchildren, never got along well among themselves. The first two sons also saw great times, like when the son of the second son studied engineering and then the MBA from the Indian School of Business, and then landed in a superb job with a fabulous salary.
The grandmother died at eighty-four, but the wounds of discrimination remain.
The aforesaid scenario is often repeated in many families, where the mother is the main culprit. The daughters take shelter under the father, and the mother has special preference for the boy, with disastrous consequences.
The rat race also demands that children play the catch up game very fast. Comparing one child with another, and teasing them, or taunting them, is very dangerous. Worse, to compare a child with his/her classmate can be very damaging too.
At times, those who are hurt, go on to become very good businessmen or professionals, since they start realizing their own strengths.
However, parents should never discriminate among children, or do the comparison game.