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Forgive Our Trespasses
Posted Date:
02 Jul 2008
Total Responses:
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Posted By: Colleen Jones Member Level: Bronze Points: 1
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I was watching an episode of a popular T.V programme recently.
It was about a revolutionary breakthrough a self help guru had made in
The way of getting what you want – however ridiculous or grand. The
Method was straightforward enough. No hypnosis, no expenses paid, just
Posting a picture of the object you desired on a board somewhere in your home. The concept was simple – if you were able to constantly visualize your goal, then you can achieve it. A number of testimonials proved that this theory was solid too. Only one catch! It absolutely will not work if you harbor any resentment or bitterness towards
Anyone in your life. Simply put – if you don’t forgive, you don’t get.
The explanation the self help guru gave for this was part psychological and part spiritual sabotage of the entire attainment process. In any case the result would be the same.
Some time ago, some people very close to my partner (and the father of my children) made a vicious accusation about how they believed I had lied about the paternity of one of my children. Suffice to say, they were wrong. Unfortunately, as the saying goes, “mud Sticks” and it goes without saying that everyone around me began to doubt and question every aspect of my character. As if this wasn’t bad enough, these people that had falsely accused me continued on a tirade to discredit me and exonerate themselves from the previous lie they had told. Most people would not have believed them the second time around – given the previous debacle – but these people have a lot of money, which means ( in my world ) that somehow they are exempt from telling lies.
As a result, tension and frustration mounted on the home front, until one day I realized that my partner and I were barely speaking. Some sit downs and long talks later, we (my partner and I) worked things out together and went back to getting along just fine.
Everything was sorted, except for one thing. I was furious. I assured myself that this kind of thing was not something I could just ‘let go’. I dictated that none of those responsible for this mess would get off unscathed. I banned ‘them’ from seeing me or my children and bad-mouthed them at every opportunity I got.
After some time lapsed, I realized that my life had remained stagnant since the time the accusation had been made, all through my ‘payback’ up until that point. The bitterness of what had happened had consumed me and all my time. I was so disappointed in myself for letting this situation get so out of hand. I resolved to ‘let it go’ immediately and move on with my life. Just like that – I really did feel free.
No religion or belief system in the world condones the inability to forgive. I guess that all religious doctrine was dictated by people that knew well and better than us that holding onto transgressions made against you will bring you nothing but heartache.
Yes forgive but that doesn’t mean forget. Wasn’t it a very wise man that advised to ‘shake the dust from your feet’ when you find a host less than hospitable. The meaning I take from that is ‘consider yourself warned, forgive but don’t forget what a bad host is capable of and maybe next time, you’ll decline their invitation’.
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| Author: Syed 03 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating:  Points: 3 | Dear Thanks for sharing this,
“Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness.”
Regards,
Syed
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