'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
I think the advent of the social media, and the IT boom are two contributing factors to the present state of affairs. Young wives pester their husbands to catch up with the costly furniture of neighbors, very costly curtains and even cars. The result is that the poor fellow gets to use the credit card or go in for loans, much more than what he can normally do.
When he starts paying the interest and the capital, other expenditures like a death in the family, of a close relative catches up. Expenses shoot up, and the merry go round, goes on and on.
Similarly, in matters of dress, worship, school education, upbringing of children and so on, it is wise to know that only those who live within their means and within normal social norms, succeed, even while having the freedom to do things in their own way. Of late, young Chennai girls have taken to dressing the Mumbai way. They do not care about anxious onlookers or the roadside romeos. More so, if they are filthy rich. They go around in cars.
The problem starts only when the girls of the middle class try to ape them. This has started happening in some places, and parents wonder what to do. These are social problems, since we allow them to become social problems. I guess we need to find our own answers.
However, in matters of living within our own means, we need to understand that what is best is to actually live within our own limits, Having debts is not a good thing at all, and cannot be justified.
We need to take this in a realistic sense in a mature way, apply this to avoid falling into the trap of trying to imitate the rich, imitate the elite class, please others and curtail our own dreams and ambitions.