Why preconceived notions are very dangerousSeveral years ago, when I was employed at a Management Institute in Western India, a particular group of three girls had this horrible preconceived idea: anyone who is dark in color, is a bad fellow, and we should never make friends with them.
It so happened that three fairly dark complexioned men became their colleagues, with whom they needed to interact in one form or the other. The professors liked each one of them, as they were hardworking and had great attention to detail. However, the three girls always saw them as enemies and, worse, even only commented on their skin color.
The three men, took everything in their stride and did not react at all, doing their work, all the time. It so happened that one of the girls met with a road accident. One of the dark men, who saw her, took her immediately to the hospital, and the other two also, landed at the hospital. The parents who arrived later, profusely thanked the man. All the three just said that it was their duty and after a week, the girl openly apologized for all her mistakes. The three girls and the three men, subsequently became the thickest of friends.
The aforesaid real life story is just one example. We, for whatever reason, assume things. For instance, a single stare from a stranger is enough to conclude that he is a rogue. Fact is, he might be having a friend exactly similar in looks. The merry go round goes on and on...
Preconceived notions are very dangerous and can destroy families, friendships and everything else. We can never assume anything about anybody, at any point in time. If we do so, we will only regret our mistake later.
Let us put an effective end to preconceived notions.