Will excessive doting, of daughters by fathers, lead to problems?I have a sweet daughter, who was around 7 weeks premature, when she was born. To be born a perfectly normal child, and staying just five days in the incubator, was termed by hospital authorities, a "medical miracle". Today, she is twenty two, a commerce graduate with First Class and Distinction and almost two years of work experience with the third largest audit company in the world, in assurance audit. She has just quit since she wants to pursue something different.
Different, she has been, from day one. When just one year old, she would ransack the house. When she was two, we even avoided taking her out, since she would literally give us tense moments. Every single moment was one of joy, watching her do all the pranks. She was termed hyper-active.
Like many fathers, I started doting her then, and I do that even now. Faced with a huge criticism from my wife and other relatives, I slow down a bit, but resume my doting once again. I do not like her junk food habits, but I now take that too in my stride.
I often see several such children and, in each case, the father is seen doting. The mother tries to be strict, and does interfere, more so, when the child is seen doing things that don't confirm to established norms. ( Tamil Brahmin culture, in our case).
Yet, I cannot stop doting. Is this a problem? More so, if the child is highly independent, and is damn sure of what she is doing? Yes, cooking may be a problem. But there is you tube to help. There is swiggy too. And too many buggies will emerge by then, when she gets married.
What are your reactions, dear members? I would like to hear from each woman member.