Bringing up child is like flying a kiteFor anyone who knows flying a kite will be aware how one needs to control the thread to keep the kite flying seamlessly in the sky. When the kite just starts flying in the sky we need to do a combination of pulling and releasing the thread so that the kite gains height and remains under control. If we simply keep on pulling the thread the kite will come down. On the other hand, if we simply keep releasing the thread then also kite will tend to go out of control.
Bringing up a child is also something similar to this. We need to adopt a combination of lenient and strict approach to ensure that they grow up into good individuals. At times we need to pull the thread which means we need to be strict, restrict and deny things if they are going in the wrong direction and keep them under control. But at the same time just like releasing the thread of the kite we should be flexible to give some freedom and liberty to our child and inspire them to do and explore the things rather than restricting them always.
Kite can fly only in the direction of wind. Similarly a child can only fly and shine if we make them work and fly in direction of their interests and aspirations. Without wind a kite cannot fly, similarly without our motivation it is difficult for child to rise.
If we keep on pulling the thread on our child it may affect their growth and development. Similarly always releasing the thread also does not help a child may grow up to be a spoilt and pampered individual.
So it is a combination of pulling and releasing which works best for the all-round development of the child.
A TOW Entry of the topic "Fly(ing)"