'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
I think it is shallow of people to lie, instead of coming out with the truth. And they do it to maintain their image. They show that they are tied because of circumstances and fabricate reasons for their inability to help. They just want to maintain their cloying sweetness.
Someone had been approaching me for money, with the promise of repaying it. I lent them money three times, and these were not petty amounts. When they approached me for the fourth time I told them, I was sorry, and that I could not lend anymore. No excuses, just the honest truth. I had made up my mind that I wasn't going to lend any more, and I didn't think it was appropriate to build a yarn, for why I couldn't do it. I didn't think it was necessary.
"A love affair with knowledge will never end in heartbreak" - Michael Garrett Marino
Some people are immediately caught up with their lies while others make it to appear normal and truth like.
Still, making lies is not a good proposition as it affects the reputation of a person in long run. However smart a person may be his lies are caught sooner or later.
Some people argue that this world is a place where you can not survive if you do not practice the art of lieing. It may look a impressive teaching in today's atmosphere but is not a healthy option for a meaningful life.
Knowledge is power.
If my lie would harm or hurt someone physically, I won't lie. And if my lie can help someone, I won't hesitate to lie.
As far as money concerned, if I don't want to give, I will not give them. I won't say,"Sorry, I don't have money'. I would say," Sorry, I can't help you." Before lending, I will also analyse the state and condition of that person demanding money. I might lose my money once from that person, but not the second time.
Two years back, one of my cousin who was in hospital needed some sum to buy medicines. His son promised me that he would deposit the sum in my bank account on the very next day. I obliged and helped them with cash. Days passed; weeks passed; months passed; and a year passed. There was no sign of getting my money back. Till date I am yet to get back my hard earned money. I wrote the sum in my Gandhi's account.
Few months back, the same cousin's wife who is also my very close relative, approached me for some loan (triple the amount I lost), promising that she would return it after a week. I did not say anything, but opened my purse, showed her the amount held in my purse. And I said,"This is what I have with me, and I have to pull on till the month end with this cash." Then I indirectly hinted her that people know how to take loan from me and they don't know how to return it. This is what I experienced in my life. She did not say anything, but walked out simply.
@ No one has taken birth on this lovely earth, to be Harichandra, till their death.
No life without Sun
But always telling lies without proper reason and for unnecessary issues is not a desirable quality. I was also telling some lies in my professional life. This is not with any vested interest but to keep the matters of the company confidential.