| Author: Savitha 10 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating:  Points: 6 |
Hi friend,
I too accept you point.Yes definitely the busy life is affecting the relationship.considering a family with both husband and wife going for a job.They even dont get time to share their affection,problems and care.So there is very less chance in building the love between them and their children are also longing for affection.As the people are struggling to spend time even to their families, then nothing for the friends and relatives.In our gbusy schedule we are forgetting everything and at one time if we sit and turn back , nobody will be there to take care.
People should realize and should manage their time to spend with family and relatives to buils a stron relationship
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| Author: Anuradha 10 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 4 |
I too accept your points. Now a days both husband and wife are working.. They are not getting time to spend with each other.. In the week days they will b busy with their works and weekends they feel to relax at home or else they go to meet relatives or else busy with the kids... children's are missing the love and affection from their parents...
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| Author: Ramya.K 10 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 4 |
Ofcourse sometimes it does happen that people are busy to an extent that they even forget there is a world around. But according to me if the bonding is true and strong it will never fade any day due to such reasons. Bonding most often does not get affected but the time that one spends with loved ones is only reduced.
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| Author: Latha Jayaprakash 10 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Life has become very mechanical nowadays, dear, we cannot do anything more than that.
Life has changed that much even the parents and the kids have to look out for quality time. When Parents are at home, kids are not there. They are with their friends and when the kids are free parents have something else to do.
Their own office function or parties which they could not avoid.
In olden days the parties meant only family get to-gethers in which children were invited along with parents.
When this important relationship suffers like this what will happen to the other relationships like friends and relatives?
They suffer the worst in the relationship, no one finds time for others.
Another point is half the married couples do not have time to spend together. One works the night shift and the other day shift. When the husband is home the wife will not be there. A cook is employed.
Both earn large pay packets but are not able to enjoy that and be happy. they have little time for each other. this is the life which every one leads these days.
So lots of divorces happen where it was told that once you marry you are not married to a single person you are married into a family and to maintain the family values.
We have to rethink about all this and find out a way out of all this. We have to develop our bonds with children, grand parents, aunties and uncles. Every one should know the value of family friends. They should spend the time together.
Only then India will improve. It is just not enough that India develops economically, we should also value our relationships and become friendly with each and every one to safe guard the "Unity in Diversity" which is India.
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| Author: Ankush Das 10 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 6 |
Nowadays with people getting so busy and attached to their jobs that they don't even have time for a four hours sleep. Talk about socialisation! That is out of the question. It has become a stressful and tiring life for people who never stop striving to reach the pinnacle of success. Well, talk about married couples or parents of friends, everyone's feeling neglected in this world and people have forgot that there is another life to live after the working hours. Although it's still not all give up hope as companies are starting to reduce their working hours to give their employees a nice time out. People have recently started to realise the importance of socialisation and bonding with everyone and I think the life is changing for the good. Let's just hope this goes on and then any of us won't have anything to complain in our lives.
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| Author: Anuradha 11 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 2 |
Now a days parents are busy with their jobs and not concentrating on their childrens so many childrens are lacking the love and affection..
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| Author: Latha Jayaprakash 11 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Yes That's right Anuradha, I have been talking about that only all the time. Children are deprived of their quality time with their parents. That is affecting them mentally and they are resorting to other entertainments like watching television or playing computer games or roaming around in the streets with their friends.
They get closer to their so called friends, they may not be good ones, parents do not get time to monitor them and bring them to the right path.
When the parents are not able to do these things where do they have time for their friends and other such things?
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| Author: Sra1 11 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 5 |
Hello Friends .. your responses are excellent .. adding to your points .. now a days due to time constraint people are visting mega marts to get all items for that month .. in earlier days family used to roam entire market and take what ever they want .. because of these mega marts and time people are getting addicted to readymade things rather preparing on own ..
do we have any suggestion/idea to stop this in future ??
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| Author: Latha Jayaprakash 11 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Dear Sra,
It is not due to the mega marts that people are changing and shifting to ready made things but for the lack of time. Your earlier query will answer this one too.
Same problem, by the time the couple returns home they are tired, the lady of the house doesn't feel like cooking. So she gets some ready made cooked products.
Earlier when wives stayed at home they cooked different nutritious meals, the variety and nutrition were there.
Now think, are the mothers at home when the kids return from school to give them good snacks. No isn't it? what will the kids do? try to get something from the markets, which they can buy with their pocket money and eat.
So mega marts with their ready made things help us in our ways or so they think they do. They are mushrooming out everywhere.
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| Author: ARVINDH 19 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Todays life is very mechanical one. This is due to "in search of money" as we are chasing the money.
Another reason is our family atmosphere. In past years we all lived together, whereas in todays life we are leading an individual separate life. We are missing the guidelines of the experienced persons.
In a family where both husband and wife are employed they were unable to concentrate on each others willingness,also unable to understand each other becaue of unavailability of time. Due to this an egoism is developed behind the screen between them, which reduces the bonding. Also we are unable to concentrate or monitor our "Children's" activities or willingness, so they will automatically move away from the family system, which in turn will lead to the reduction of bonding.
My Solution to the problem:
To reduce this we have to adopt ourselves for living together with our grand parents, parents and relatives.
Each couple must have atleast two children so they can share everything even in the absence of parents. This will develop the children's adjustability, forgiveness quality and many more good activites.
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| Author: ARVINDH 19 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Todays life is very mechanical one. This is due to "in search of money" as we are chasing the money.
Another reason is our family atmosphere. In past years we all lived together, whereas in todays life we are leading an individual separate life. We are missing the guidelines of the experienced persons.
In a family where both husband and wife are employed they were unable to concentrate on each others willingness,also unable to understand each other becaue of unavailability of time. Due to this an egoism is developed behind the screen between them, which reduces the bonding. Also we are unable to concentrate or monitor our "Children's" activities or willingness, so they will automatically move away from the family system, which in turn will lead to the reduction of bonding.
My Solution to the problem:
To reduce this we have to adopt ourselves for living together with our grand parents, parents and relatives.
Each couple must have atleast two children so they can share everything even in the absence of parents. This will develop the children's adjustability, forgiveness quality and many more good activites.
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| Author: drsachin 19 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 6 |
because of increased cost of living especially in metros,everybody's life is extremely busy nowadays.Nobody gets free time.Both husband & wife have to work to earn money.They don't get adequate time for each other.Same thing happens with children.Because of nuclear families,children stay away from grandparents.Children are in a state of "Emotional Hunger".They need somebody to stay with them.Children don't get proper care & affection.At an earlier age they are sent to hostels.
Many couples are also having tough time to maintain relationship.Many divorces have been reported due to inability to develop proper relationship as couples don't get adequate time for each other.
As old people have to stay away from children,other problems of geriatric health are rising.When old people get fracture,heart attacks,immediately they may not get medical care.It may get delayed.
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| Author: Sandy 19 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 4 |
Here I am with a different thought. I think bonding is something related to heart, Yes life has become too fast and people much more busy, we dont have time. Even we cannot meet our parents regularly but how much of us think that bonding between parents and child has reduced??
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