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Life before marriage and after marriage

here is how I compare life before and after marriage when I talk with my wife

Offshore Before Marriage:
Get up by 9, get ready by 10, Speed (@ 70 kmph) in 50 mins to EC4 to reach by 1115 hrs
Call mom once or twice during the day
Do your work
Leave office by 2100 or 2130 to reach home by 2145 or 22:10 speeding again @ 70 kmph

Offshore after Marriage:
Get up @ 7, get ready by 9, Cruise (@ 40 kmph) in 90 mins to EC4 to reach office by 1045 or 1100 hrs
Call up wife once
Have Lunch
Call up mom once
Call up wife 10 times
Do your work
Leave office by 2000 (sharp) Cruise (@ 40kmph) in 75 mins to reach home by 21:15

Onshore before Marriage:
Share Accommodation of a fully furnished apartment with a fellow Indian (may/maynot be ur colleague)
Get up @ 7, get ready by073, walk to office by 0815
Call up mom once a day
Have lunch
Do ur work
Leave office by sharp 1700, walk home by 1740, talk to mom, put fiancee to sleep and its still 2000 hrs
Go out for grocery etc shopping

Onshore After Marriage:
Rent an unfurnished apartment for a couple
Furnish the House with what u have got from India and buy everything else needed
Get up @ 7, get ready by 8 and reach office by 0830 or 0845 (sometimes)
Have Breakfast @ office
Call up mom once a day
Have lunch
Do ur work
Leave office by 1645 to get to home by 1715, talk to mom and u have all the time with ur wife to help her in cooking


Offshore before Marriage
Party with Friends

Offshore after Marriage
Go out with mom and wife
Give false hopes of meeting friends

Onshore before Marriage
Party with friends

Onshore After Marriage
Go shopping with your wife for groceries

still to add Life after children.. watch out for this section


#20534    Author: k.srinivasan  19 Jul 2008 Member Level: Silver   Points : 6

Well said. Before marriage one can follow his thoughts. Mom shouts but who cares. But after marriage one has to always please his wife. Should ensure that she does not frown at things we do. In the process one has to do a lot of sacrifices after marriage. Life becomes restricted.

Before marriage, life is like a unbound orchid. After marriage it is a small garden with boundaries on all sides.

One feels more responsible after marriages. One can really feed the weight on his shoulders after marriage.

#20541    Author: RajmiArun      19 Jul 2008 Member Level: Gold   Points : 3

Oh thats a real good rewind you have done Varun Sharma. It is just the same for most of the men folk (of course exceptions are there definitely).

For woman the entire scenario changes.


#20561    Author: varun sharma    19 Jul 2008 Member Level: Gold   Points : 3

Yes..u r true anusma... for men its just change of their activites but for a girl, its a new world.. new people, new home.. every thing seems to be changed like u have landed in an alien world....

Varun Sharma

#20571    Author: Latha Jayaprakash    19 Jul 2008 Member Level: Gold   Points : 6

Do you know what all changes we make when we get married? Get into a whole new family where we just do not know what the traditions are, actually it is just nil for some new brides.
New husband, new in laws where everyone keeps watching you even for a small mistake you do.
You are supposed to get adjusted to their family overnight, forgetting your own parents, friends and relatives but the men are not supposed to. The girl is supposed to do all the sacrifice.
So the changes you do after we get into your lives doesn't make any sacrifice at all. all the times you men crib that you have got tied up and you are not able to do anything, you lost your freedom etc. Have your ever thought of a women's plight there?

Latha Jayaprakash

#20764    Author: vinayak    21 Jul 2008 Member Level: Gold   Points : 6

I want to suggest what is life before marriage & after marriage with a small example.
before marriage
Boy :Yes.At last.It was so hard to wait.
Girl:Do u want me to leave?
Boy :NO! Don't even think about it.
Girl:Do u love me?
Boy :Of course! Over and over!
Girl: Have you ever cheated on me?
Boy: NO! Why are you even asking?
Girl: Will you kiss me?
Boy: Every chance I get!
Girl: Will you hit me?
Boy: Are you crazy! I"m not that kind of person!
Girl: Can I trust you?
Boy: Yes.
Girl: Darling!

After marriage…
just read it from bottom to top now.

#20774    Author: Baljeet    21 Jul 2008 Member Level: Gold   Points : 6

I think You are right. But what you have discussed is a guy's perspective, did you ever tried to find a girl's perspective.

Girl's Perspective Before Marriage
Get up
Have Your Breakfast
Go to Office
Call your parents once
Come Back from office
Have Dinner

After Marriage
Get Up
Prepare Breakfast for family
Prepare Lunch for Kids
Send Kids to School
Ask Husband to get up
Serve him Bed Tea
Help Husband to get ready for his office
She herself gets ready for her office
Go to Office
Call Husband-"I have reached"
Call parents
Before having lunch, ask husband if he had lunch?
Then call kids, if they have reached home safely?
Ask kids if they have had their lunch?
Then, Have Lunch
Call several times at home to inquire about kids whereabouts
Get back Home
Help Kids in their Homw Work
Prepare Dinner
Listen to Husband-How was his day and all.
Sleep at 1
Again get up at 6

You guys just see your own perspective. Girl's life changes much more than yours. So take care and Respect Women

#20782    Author: vinayak    21 Jul 2008 Member Level: Gold   Points : 2

baljeet don't get angry it was just an obeservation we didn't have any intention to hurt u or any women.I respect the women a lot.

#20802    Author: Latha Jayaprakash    21 Jul 2008 Member Level: Gold   Points : 4

Dear Vinayak,

It is not what you men say irritates us. It is the way you seem to think that marriage is a bond on your part and we women have nothing to lose.

We are the ones who lose everything, you just lose your freedom , that too only some of you. The rest just doesn't think of the hurt the wife goes through.

Latha Jayaprakash

#20808    Author: m.v. subba raju  21 Jul 2008 Member Level: Gold   Points : 6

Hi Varun,

What you said is correct but only to some extent.


I appreciate your sayings. What you said is exactly true. But who cares it. We think only from our side. Not from girl side. Many people say that it is their duty. But you have given the chart correctly. Here I am getting a doubt whether you are married or not. If married are you helping your wife or not.

This is all for fun. Don't take anything to heart. We are discussing only. These are all our feelings only.

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