| Author: RajmiArun 19 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating:  Points: 6 |
There was once a family, where a man kept complaining that his wife is not capable of doing things. Her way of dressing up kids is not good, her cooking, her housekeeping abilities, all were criticised by him every other day.
One evening when the man returned from home, he saw his children playing in the road outside with full of dirt. He was shocked to see them like that. He just grabbed them by their hands and took them inside. The house was a mess. The living room was strewn with lots of things here and there. There was not even a single space to sit on. When he called for his wife, there was no answer. On enquiry he found that the kids had nothing after they had come home. So when he went into the kitchen to make a cup of coffee for him and milk for the kids, he cannot find the sugar box, he cannot find the glasses. He was very angry to see the kitchen sink full of unwashed dishes. They were smelling rotten too. There is nothing to eat too.
To his dismay he found the toilet smelling bad and the clothes dangling here and there all over the house. At last he found his wife sitting in the bed and reading her favourite novel. He was so wild with her and started shouting. She also used to fight. But she was very quiet and once he stopped she replied, every other day, you keep complaining that I am not doing anything properly and I am reading books always. I just wanted to show you, how the house will look, if I keep reading the books and dont do anything at home.
Every other day, I do the cleaning work, I cook for you all, and I wash your clothes and the vessels and I take care of the kids. Every day before you come home, the kids would have finished their homework and studies and will be ready to have dinner with you. I am on strike today, and you have seen the results. So here after pls dont criticise that I am not doing anything.
ONLY THE ABOVE WILL HAPPEN IF THE HOUSEWIVES GO ON STRIKE.
|
| Author: Latha Jayaprakash 19 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Yes Anusma, you are right. No one ever values what women do at home. She is a door mat, often taken for granted.
Others will see the house wife as a do - for - nothing sitting at home doing nothing but eating from her husbands' salary.
But if the wife is not there a day no one could manage the house as your story explained.
The career girls have servants to do everything at home. They can afford to have one but the house wife cannot and will not, because she stays at home she does all the work herself and she is expected to.
She has to do all the things and the people never really understands the value till she keeps quiet for a day.
I have also heard of a story.
A husband tired of his wife's complaints that he is not helping out with her chores said that he will take care of the house hold work and asked her to go to the office and earn money.
She started going to the office and did his work for a weekbut no complaints there at all.
The husband could not manage household work, most of the time they ended up buying food from the hotel, or the backlog of clothes were there for washing.
In other words the house was just out of control within a week.
He accepted failure and took back his words and his position as the earning member of the family.
After that episode he never complained but helped his wife by going to the market buying things needed for the house.
He tried to lessen her burden by helping her out. So some strict measures are to be taken by the wives to make the husbands and other family members understand her plight.
|
| Author: neyha 19 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 4 |
Good response friends.They are absolutely true you would not be able stay in a house were the wife has gone on a strike.Imagine what would happen if all they do the whole day is sit idle.The house will be turned upside down and i tell you the only reason that the households are running smoothly is because of the wives.
|
| Author: RajmiArun 19 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Men were right from the young age were taught not to do household work. Even though they do it when they have to, they just dont do when a woman, be it mother, sister or wife is at home. They just take it that household work = Woman.
Even those men who go abroad, who help their wives when they are there dont do it when they come to India even on vacation, for the simple reason of humiliation from family.
I really dont understand one simple thing, what is wrong in men doing or helping woman in household work.
|
| Author: Latha Jayaprakash 19 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
That is the way men are being brought up here. As and when they come near the kitchen they are told to go back and that kitchen is not the place for men.
I am thunderstruck at this attitude. I have seen many mothers show this type of attitude even now. They think boys should be pampered and girls asked to work harder and harder.
Nowadays, men abd women are equal in everything, in studying, in working and also in earning. Then why is this discrimination?
I have encouraged my son to learn cooking.He has a flat and he is looking after it without a maid. He is not yet married. He does his own cooking also. There is nothing demeaning in men learning to cook or doing household chores.
I am happy to say that my husband also helps me out with the household chores, the only problem is that if he cooks will I be able to eat? I don't know, so I have not encouraged him there.
|
| Author: RajmiArun 19 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 5 |
Yes Neyha you are right.
If the woman go on stike, especially the house wives, just imagine the condition a house will look and smell. Just because the mothers/wives are there at home, it is not that they dont know anything at all. Many woman, who are highly educated have opted to stay back home, just for the simple reason of taking care of the home and kids. If you just have to pay for the work the house wives do, every man will be bankrupt just the first month itself.
|
| Author: RajmiArun 19 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
I have seen my father and all his cousins asking all the woman of the house to sit and have their food, and the men will serve the woman. It is a real great sight to see. And the woman are given some relaxing time when they all sit and eat at once. As the men serve, they too come to know what their wives likes more or likes less. I have seen my aunt's and mother beam with pride on their face when their husband's or son say you like this eat some more of this or dont eat this you will get allergy.
You are great in training your son Lathaji. Infact my brother also learnt cooking and managing the household, when he was a bachelor. Both my father and my brother help my mother. Now my brother is married, he helps his wife whenever needed and possible.
But let me tell you something, there are some women especially wives, who tell their husband, oh you dont know anything, so dont come near the kitchen. And the attitudes of woman should also change, they should learn to allocate jobs and also learn to accept the fact that it cannot be done perfectly right the first time and the men folk will learn it a bit slowly.
|
| Author: Gurpreet Singh 21 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 1 |
Thanks anusma for the reply .really nice story.i ll also move with u .
|
| Author: Gurpreet Singh 21 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 0 |
Thanks neha for the reply.really nice answer..
|
| Author: S.Yamini 22 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 6 |
Good question ask by gurpreet singh
If housewives goes to the strike, in the house no work will be done, how can the children goto the school,how can the husband go to the office,how can the house work will run,who will cook for all the members,who will maintain the house and outside who are all coming and going ,respond to all the people who comes to the house,these things will defintely stop,then wife is the wall of the house,if the wall is no means then how will house will stand,so no food,no neatness,no washing,no cleaness in the house,all the things will irregular,
SO HOUSEWIVES IS THE WALL OF THE HOUSE,
|
| Author: RajmiArun 22 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 5 |
You are right Yamini,
The housewives are the walls of the homes, not just houses. If they go on strike, all the jobs goes for a toss. But many a times, the wall is simply used as a means to lean on or rub their dirty hands, or stratch their itching back and shoulders. Never do anybody realize that these walls are not made of bricks but are made of emotions and they will give a 1000 jar fulls if a single drop of love and affection is showered on them.
|
| Author: Baljeet 22 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 4 |
If one day housewives go on strike, i think life will stop for all men. No one will be there to wake them up, to help them get ready, to pack their lunch, to manage their kids and so on. These men just do not realise the value of women. They do not know that they are nothing without women.
|
| Author: m.v. subba raju 23 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 6 |
Hi Gurpreet,
I have read somewhere that first God has created men but he could not satisfy then he created women. He got satisfied. Normally female is will be compared with nature. How many times you see that will not change. How much trouble you give to it still it hleps you. We are cutting so many trees but the remaining trees ae giving us oxygen. In the same way the woman looks after the whole family. Starting from giving birth to child to helping the husband in his official work too. Suppose, if housewife goes on strike the generation will stop. Everything will be stopped. Without a woman life will not be fruitful. But how many people know this. There is a saying that if a man is educated it will help him, but if a woman is educated the whole family will be educated.
|
| Author: Miloni Modi 23 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Hi Gurpreet,
You did really a great job asking this question.
If the housewives goes on strike no work will be done. For example:
Who will cook the food, who will dress up the children for school, who will look after the house, who will do dusting, who will clean the house, who will clean the room, who will wash and iron the cloths of all the members of the house, who will bring the necessary thing used in day today life, who will respond the phone calls and visitors at the house,
I know that now a days men has also learn all the basic things like cooking and all, but I can challenge the they cannot do and manage all the work which only we wife’s can do.
|
| Author: RajmiArun 23 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 5 |
Yes Baljeet,
There are many jokes going around about men and women. But jokes apart, men cannot live without the help of women. I dont mean wives alone, but I mean their mother, sister every one. Women always play a very integral part in every man's life.
If the women, be it working women or house wives, if they go on strike at home, the men cannot work peacefully at office. Peace at home helps the men work well at office.
|
| Author: Nalini Sadasivan 23 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Silver | Rating: Points: 4 |
Yes friends, You are correct . when a housewife go on strike, that house wl definitely become a mess. She does everything for everybody without expecting anything frm them-a selfless service. She has to take care of each and every need of the husband,children, his parents who may be old . She has to do her daily chore without any break -no holiday, no leave nothing.
|
| Author: shikamohan 23 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Silver | Rating: Points: 6 |
"If Housewives Go On Strike"-this is indeed a great topic to discuss .B'coz today thereis strike everywhere without any worthy reason.So when our mothers went on strike ,it will make our life miserable.We all know that housewives are behind every perfect home.She is the person who always want the welfare of her family.Without expecting any monetary gains she is keep on working.......
Sometimes there are lot of reasons for her strike.But we are often not aware of it.Or don't try to know.We have to consider the fact that -all housewives are not machines.They also have feelings(which they often not express),so we can't suppress their feelings.We have to consider this fact that they are sacrificing many of their wishes or ambitions for their family.We can see lot of mothers who are not going to job for their family.But atlast we often avoid their opinions in some important decisions concerned with the family.
So let's try to respect the housewives inside every family for their worthy services to us.Then there will be less chance for their strikes.We have to provide them "Proper Attention And Care"
In this men dominated society ,often many of them get illtreated.
|
| Author: RajmiArun 23 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Though men know the basic cooking and cleaning Miloni, they definitely love to be pampered and cared. That can be done only by a woman, who is a mother, or a sister or a wife. So if they go on strike, that pampering will not be available. Not just men, even women loves pampering. So if the house wives go on stike, the entire household, the entire day will go for a mess for every one in the home.
But the truth is the mothers/housewives dont even think of doing that ever. Even if I go out of the home, to attend a function, I make sure that I keep everything ready for my husband and kids and then only step out. I have seen my mother thinking about my father and brother who stayed back at home, when we had to attend functions. Most of the times, the thoughts and activities of women/housewives revolves around their family and home. So I dont think it is possible for any woman to go on strike.
|
| Author: RajmiArun 23 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Nalini,
When I read your words, no holiday, no break, I am reminded of the Brittania advertisement where the woman says, I have got holiday everyday, for 15 mins, when I have tea with my Brittania Marie. Though you see woman, who are carrer + housewives, they can take a day off from their office, but that day off from office means, more work at home for them.
I have seen many of my friends heave a big sigh on the mention of Sundays. That is the only day available for them to relax from official duties, but that is the day, they have to prepare everything from dosa batter to vegetable purchase, cleaning, ironing etc for the entire next week.
|
| Author: Gurpreet Singh 26 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 1 |
Hey guys! i am really enjoying the discussion. Please carry on.
|
| Author: m.v. subba raju 19 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 5 |
Hi Yaduvanshi,
Do you mean to say that housewifes will not go on strike. When actually a strike will start either officially or personally. When the individual is not satisified with the love or affection or recognition from the superiors officially they will be depressed and that will lead to strike. So, once the dissatisfaction starts in a person they will not bother about the other things. So, we should see that the housewifes are satisfied to our best to avoid strikes.
Subba Raju, MV
|
| Author: kavi 20 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 5 |
hai,
if all housewives go on a strike,what will be the situation pretaining at home?????????
no work would be done like-
people of the house themselves going to the kitchen and wasting the time.
or a heavy rush for the near by hotels with their children and running here and there dont know what to do next...
rushing the children to schools,themselvesa going late to office and many daily life routine would be affected.......
the only thing that would be going on is-RUSHING RUSHING RUSHING.
thanks
kavi
|
| Author: drsachin 20 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 5 |
If housewife goes on strike - everything gets affected-cooking,arranging things neatly,washing of clothes,cleaning of utensils,etc.Eating in hotel leads to health problems.Men will not get adequate time for other activities.Child care will get affected.
For maintaining a house properly,both husband & wife have to work in symbiosis i.e.they should have good coordination.Especially nowadays,when both are working to earn,house maintenance also has to be done by both.So take home message is if housewife is happy,whole family is happy
|
| Author: sangeetha 22 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Silver | Rating: Points: 5 |
strike, that to house wifes, oh my god dat will need to a ultimate stand still of daily life. right from the dawn to dusk the number of roles performed by her is numerous, starting d duty as a wife, mother , daughter in law,housing finance manager etc. Thus housewife are those who should be really recognised. these are some of the talents that have been unrecognised. so according to be respect women, and be helpful in what ever samall to them, which makes them feel relieved.
|
| Author: Puneet Verma & Mitul Rana 22 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Silver | Rating: Points: 3 |
hmmmm
if the house wives go on strike
men's world would b pulled down to da road
cz dey r ones who keep our life comfortable
and guide us in evry decision of life
|
| Author: Sandy 22 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 2 |
If all housewives will go on strike, then certainly the restaurent owner will give them special prize as their business will increase several times.
|
| Author: jyothi 22 Aug 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: -20 |
Hi Nalini,
When I read your words, no holiday, no break, I am reminded of the Brittania advertisement where the woman says, I have got holiday everyday, for 15 mins, when I have tea with my Brittania Marie. Though you see woman, who are carrer + housewives, they can take a day off from their office.I have seen many of my friends heave a big sigh on the mention of Sundays. That is the only day available for them to relax from official duties, but that is the day, they have to prepare everything from dosa batter to vegetable purchase, cleaning, ironing etc for the entire next week.
Regards,
Jyothi.
|
| Author: Shampa Ray Barman 15 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 4 |
Maybe a Wife will go But Mothers dont go on strikes..One of the problems is the idea that housework is natural for women.
It would be the end of the world. men would be lost, kids will starve. Strikers usually put demands. If these are fulfilled, strike is taken back with honour.
Men will quickly realise just how much work is involved in running a home.
|
| Author: Nipa Chowdhury 16 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 3 |
Wife does'nt have to go on a strike , to prove her point she will just need to go out of the house leaving behind her children with husband for couple of hours. Of course she should leave without making arrangement for food then see the result.
|
| Author: deepali bansal 16 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Though this is an imaginary question because housewife can never go on a strike. Because they are doing their duties and not doing any service for their home for any type of rewards or salary. But still if you are asking this question i would answer you in some points as follows :
1.Then you will not get your breakfast and without breakfast your whole day will be very bad.
2.Even you would not get washed clothes.
3.Also no lunch,no dinner for you.
4.Your home would be very untidy and your living will totally disturbed.
5.All conclusion is that you would not get your home made meal and other necessary daily routine things.
|
| Author: Himabindu 16 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
There have been arguements in my house regarding this topic. The women who go to work are doing both house and office work. They start feeling bored when they think about leaving the job and "staying at home". They say that they would not know what to do. But have they tried managing kids along with housework or home based jobs? They may or may not have servants to do household work. But what about kids, they will have to leave them in the creche or with the elders in the family. They will surely have empathy from the other members of the family because they are earning money for their work. The office jobs are at the most 18 hours job, after which you can leave the work place and come back home. But for a housewife, leaving her work place...??? I am not against the working women. But I am trying to convey that they at least get a chance to pursue their ambitions, unlike a woman who has resigned to the fact that her life is to be a housewife. There is only one thing a working woman is missing. A chance to argue for herself in this section....
|
| Author: Akash Kamal 16 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Appreciated¡Deepali ji,you are absolutely right and well within the guidelines.
Although the question reflects an imagination,but seems a rather sensible one.And honestly your response was possibly the best,one could go for.
A true and responsible housewife would never think this way,until there has been enough controversy at home or something humilating.
And in other hand,husbands must understand the values of a housewife and should not create these chances.Otherwise,all we know what,yes,life will become hell for them.
So,be loyal be polite,love your wife.you will get to eat allu ka parathas¡
|
| Author: RajmiArun 16 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 5 |
Dear all,
I have not been into this thread for a long time. But when one of my friends pointed me that one another member Jyothi have written the same answer, and also have addressed to the same person to whom I have addressed and have got full 5 points. I dont think this is allowed in ISC. I am taking this matter to Mr. Ramkumar, the editor of group discussions and also to Mr. Tony. Hope in future others will not do this.
Regards,
RajmiArun,
Webmaster, IRC
|
| Author: Kannan RK. 16 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Silver | Rating: Points: 6 |
HI Gurpreet Singh,
In India we are considerind the women as a God.That is our culture.A woman can make anything possibile,but a man cannot do those all come happen.A woman can be a daughter , a mother ,a wife,a God, and can also destuct if she think to do so.If we make any trouble to them this will not do nothing benefitial to us.In a house,she is the one who is behind the children's study , the husband's job and she is the one who keeps the house clean and tidy.If she started to strike then all the above mentioned will not be happened properly. And we can conclude like this that the movement in the life cycle will be stopped if the housewives(women) start strike.
Kannan RK.
Member,ISC
|
| Author: Jeevagan 20 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
hey
Its its a nice imagination for question
this equal to the elephant which could put a mud on its head,
Wife is the one of the main member of the family, mostly she is said to be as one of the main root of the family.
If see do the strike means what will happened
oh god most of them will never try to imagine it
if the most the ladies never accept it first, right
also the Husbands are start planned how to get wappes the strike by the wife side.
Its look very strange and funny too too, during even in the imagination .
After the strike will finished think what happened , wife have to do the all of the work which she had left during her strike time, even though they have to face more than the ordinary day work.
So Happened like this piercing the own eyes with the our own finger like work
So wife will never participate in these and not ready to suffer physically and mentally.
But this is the very good question for imagination
o k
Keep in touch
by
S.Jeeva
|
| Author: Rajendra 22 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Silver | Rating: Points: 6 |
Dear Gurpreet
I think,
It will go like this. Wives and husbands both will initially feel that whatever happened is good. Now other person will realize my importance. They will also feel that I (both men and women) can manage without other. This will continue for half a day. After this both will understand each others life full of challenges and difficulties. Then in later part of the day there will be respect for each other but who will take lead to speak to other will be a question? Then slowly again both will come together that their views were wrong and family needs both. They will help each other in future. This strike will definitely help to eradicate anger about each other
Am I correct?
Rajendra
|
| Author: m.v. subba raju 23 Sep 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 4 |
Hi Friends,
So everybody is having so many views about the housewifes going on strike, now I feel atleast every housewife should go on strike for one day, how we will face the problems. I think we can better understand the problems which we have to face if the housewife really goes on strike.
Subba Raju, MV
Member, ISC
|