| Author: shiva sankaran 25 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating:  Points: 5 |
The main reason is that Indian women are always very sensitive with the relationship between their husband and other women especially girlfriends.
They were afraid that their husband may fall in feelings with others.Also they always expect their husband must care and think of them.
We cannot blame them for their doubts. Its natural for every women. We gents must tell to them about and its the gents talent to earn the belief from their wife.....
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| Author: Abuzer N 25 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 3 |
It all depends on the mind set of the person.
It is dependant on the individual.
One has no right to blame a person nor force his or her views on the person.
Decision solely lies with the person himself/herself.
Regards,
AN
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| Author: Latha Jayaprakash 25 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Hi Bharath,
It is in the eyes of the particular individual, whoever it is man or woman.
Anyone can be friends, that's my opinion. But in our tradition our custom does not allow the mingling of boys and girls from the first. So it is ingrained in all of our minds.
Can I ask you one thing, why just speak of women or wives? Will any one of the husbands allow their wives to talk to any of her friends? why, it need not even be a Boyfriend, it can be just an old classmate of hers. No he will not like it.
Even the society looks at her in a wrong way. Have you noticed that.
So friend, it is like that. Suspicion is there in everyone. It is not just for wives or for women.
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| Author: RajmiArun 25 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 6 |
Bharath,
Men and women can always be friends; I have a friend who is a man and we are friends for the past 20 years. Today we are family friends too. His wife is my friend too and my husband is his friend too. It all depends on how you see and perceive the relationship.
To be friends after marriage, it is difficult for women. But men continue with the friendship be it with their boyfriends or girl friends.
But your question of why his wife cannot accoept the fact that your friend and his ex cannot be friends again is quite common in the Indian scenario. Not just Indian woman, but woman are possessive to a greater extent. Had if the girlfriend is a new one, probably his wife wouldnot have minded at all. But you have mentioned that she is his ex. They have been in an intimate relationship for 5 years, how can he expect his wife to accept the rekindled friendship.
If he really wants harmony in family, it will be better to stop meeting her even as a friend.
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| Author: m.v. subba raju 26 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 6 |
Hi Bharath,
Every women in India is a sentimental fool. That does not mean they are fool. Once a girl marries a boy she will forget total her family. She will think the total life for her is her husband. If he is happy she will be happy. If he is sad she will become more tensed. She wants to be everything for him. The main reason for objection by your friends wife is if the lady who was her huband's lover earlier comes into his life as a friends also, there may be chance of again the love come in between. If so, then what will be her position. So, I feel there is no mistake of her.
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| Author: Baljeet 26 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 4 |
Hi Bharath,
I agree with your friend's wife. A person and his/her ex cannot become very good friends again because somewhere in this new relationship with your ex,the past comes. Those feelings start coming again. You just cant see your ex as just friend after that. Unintensionally you'll always want that intimacy with your ex back once you start interacting with them.
Regards
Baljeet
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| Author: jalaj 26 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Diamond | Rating: Points: 5 |
I agree with your friends wife as two ex lovers can't be good friends.Because they have spent a very long time of intimate relationship which is not very easy to get over.Even though the husband is very loyal to his wife but sometimes past may get over the present and can make situation worst for three of them.so ex lovers should stay apart and live their life as they were living without each other
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| Author: Deepika 27 Jul 2008 | Member Level: Gold | Rating: Points: 4 |
Hi Bharath,
I agree with Abuzer N. It depends on the persons mind set. But i feel it is a complicated issue. To avoid further problems in family life, it is better to stay apart from his ex-lover. Past is past and he has many responsibilities right now. So it is better to take care of them.
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