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What advice one can give to a student who is depressed because of failing in exam?
Posted Date: 13 Jan 2012 Posted By:: T Syed Rizwan Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 345 Points: 5 (Rs 5)
Many times we might have read in the newspaper about students committing suicide because of some kind of depression. Mostly, the reason will be failing in exams or getting very less marks in an exam.
This is because they are not given proper advice at the right time. I mean to say that proper counselling is needed for them. Even if there is someone to advice them, not all the students will accept the advice. The person who is counselling should be able to make the student realise the situation by giving proper advice.
Share here what advice you will give for a student who got depressed because of failing in exams.
|#279070 Author: Md. Akhter Hossain Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 971 Date: 13/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 5|
It is very normal fact that anyone gets depressed after failing the examination. Depression is not a big matter but when a student commits suicide it is a deep thinking matter. I think when a student gets the message of his failing in the examination, at that time his closed friends should take the vital role to console him. Similarly his parents and relatives should alos give him simpathy in spite of scolding or hating him. If his depression level increases day by day, parents should watch him sincerely that not leaving him alone. Always give him company and make him understand that life is very beautiful and it cames at once. Main thing is that he should be well understood that besides his failure there are so many tasks in the life. If he fails once, does not mean that he fails for the whole life. Take patience and try once more. You must succeed the examination.
Life is very beautiful, take care of it...
|#279206 Author: kshitiz Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 1311 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
This is really a matter of concern that students suicide because of result in failure. the fault can be of education system or the student could be suffering of mental illness, whatever may be the reason this act is a shame for the society. sometimes the parents force their children to get more and more marks due to which the student gets frustrated and can't concentrate on their studies and get failure.
first of all students should study only those subjects which are of their interest and not because it gives a high paying job.
|#279247 Author: Priyanga Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 2401 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
This is a very nice topic to discuss.Firstly, we must make the student believe that 'This situation will also pass,this is not the end'.When time runs and days pass on we will think that "For this silly thing I had decided to lose a beautiful life".Secondly,convince him by telling that after years pass we will cry by thinking some cherishable moments and will laugh for the silly mistakes which made us cry in the past,so just live the present and move on.This is the miracle of time,it is least bothered whether you cry or laugh but the clouds change in the sky.
|#279258 Author: Rajendra Singh Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 106 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
"I failed in some subjects in exam but my friend pass in all. Now he is an engineer in Microsoft and I am the owner of Microsoft."
The above statement of Bill Gates is sufficient to encourage any one who have fear of exams because a single exam never make big effect on your carrier so there is no reason for fear about result, failing in exam or less number in exam.
If you fail no problem try next time for same. If you not defeated in life then you don't know the real taste of winning.
Only those students have fear of failing who not doing proper preparation so keep regular study and learning, you will never feel fear form exam.
So don't worry be happy and live your life tension free.
I am not the BEST,
but I am not like the REST........
|#279260 Author: Ganesh Kumar Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 330 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
It is a hard feeling to anyone getting failed in any examination. But students must understand that it is just a part of life, and try to be strong enough to face it again as it is a big challenge. Every failure has a big victory to be followed, it is the general perception need to be advised. Student who fail in examinations get depressed feeling only because of the society and fear about parents. Counselling can't only cure this, parents and society should also encourage them.
|#279261 Author: Kalyani Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 24 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 5|
I fully appreciate the Rajendra's response.
In my opinion, apart from the student who fails in the exam, his parents, relatives and friends too need to be counselled than the student himself / herself as many a times the student who fails in the exams is mentally not prepared to face the insults and humiliation from the people in his / her immediate surroundings. In this connection I would like to mention the following points to the student community:
- failure in the exams should not be taken too seriously by the students instead it should taken as the stepping stones to success.
- mentally be prepared to take any kind of result of an exam very sportively with a positive bent of mind.
- Do not think that failure in an exam is your fault as there might be several factors like circumstances as home, health etc that reflect on the result of your exam.
- Do not take your failure too seriously to the extent of ending up your life instead take it as a challenge
- Try to learn from your failures and develop the attitude that what has happened is for good only.
- Try to face the society even if you score less in the exam and do not carried away by the words of your relatives or friends.
- Take it as a challenge and try to prove yourself with a much good score in the next attempt
- If you are very particular of a good score, involve yourself in studies without any distractions of mind. Of course you can take some time for recharging your mind and body.
- Remember that just losing the exam for one academic year is in no way going to affect your career.
- Know your capability, talent and skills and have confidence in yourself. Remember that a good talent is never overlooked and will sure to get recognition one fine day. The only thing is you have to wait a bit patiently till the day.
I would also like to inform those who are in the immediate surroundings of the student the following things:
- Never insult or humiliate a student if he fails in an exam instead try to give him / her emotional support as the student will be emotional disturbed.
- Try to encourage him / her as much as you can and do not brand him / her as a dullard.
- If possible give him / her proper guidance and counsel him / her so that it will boost his / her confidence levels and he / she will be sure to score well in the next attempt.
And lastly I would like to say that everyone of us should readily face the challenges of life and we should understand the fact that all the people have some or the other problem in their life and no one is free of problems on this Earth.
Try your best and leave the rest to God.
Thanks & Regards
|#279267 Author: Vicky Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 135 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
This is a very valuable forum to be discussed here. I feel life is like a progressive wave, which always move forward. This wave has both crest and trough and without both the wave is incomplete. Similar our life has both success and failure. Don't be disappointed, you can get it again. Note down the mistakes you have done in the past which lead to such damages in your career. Better to not repeat those mistakes then the failure also won't come to you. So, lets start the journey with more confidently to move towards the goal.
Thanks and regards,
|#279299 Author: T Syed Rizwan Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 345 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 1|
Kalyani mam and Rajendra sir,
Great responses given by both of you. I guess like this is the best advice one can give to a depressed student.
|#279323 Author: Meera Chandrasekharan Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 357 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
Here is serious problem pointed out by you.
I think we need to treat such children with care and friendly attitude. I've seen many friends who feel depressed because of their below average performance in academics. They are double worried, thinking what their parents will say. If they have the suerty that their parents will treat them kindly and support them further, they will break free from their depression and work hard for the next exam, I think.
We may say to such children that this is not the end of the world. There are many famous persons who achieved global fame even though they were poor performers academically. The talent of a child is not confined to academic excellence. He/she can be great in life even if he performs well in extra-curricular activities.
'Do Your Best and Leave the Rest'
|#279340 Author: Hakimuddin Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 953 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
Failure is the first step of success. Take a lesson from your failure and go ahead. Never forget every successful man has failed many times and after taking a lesson they got success.
Addison failed almost 10000 times and after all he was able to make electric bulb.
So don't take your failure serious. Learn a lesson and go head with a new energy you will get success.
Addison told that from these 10000 failure I learn that electric bulb can not be made by these 10000 ways.
Honesty is the best policy.
|#279345 Author: Nazim Shaikh Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 825 Date: 14/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
Failure in exam is a part of life so there is no need to be hurt ourselves. It is the time where one can start his life and feel where we did mistakes in past and it is the time to correct it and make beautiful life. Stress full person can not do any work in proper manner so we have to avoid depression and make yourself strong. There are so many examples of failure persons in the world in exams and after that they are successful person in their life. We need to learn from them, how they worked hard and they their way of life, their thinking ability and best thing in them was patience. Failure in exams is the just one experience of life and life never ends there. There are lots of opportunities in today's modern world.
"If life is the Game, then I will Play for it"
|#279428 Author: Veena Sharma Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 126 Date: 15/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
I would love to tell such students that you should never loose hope and will tell that person to watch a spider who is trying to climb a wall with the help of his own web, but is not able to do so and you know what that spider don't loose hope. He tries again and again until he succeed.
In the same way; we should also keep on trying until we succeed and get of what we want from life.
|#279461 Author: Tony John Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 4 Date: 15/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 0|
Very good topic to discuss.
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|#279591 Author: Paresh n patel Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 466 Date: 15/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
For that I think our educational system is more responsible first is our teaching method is classrooms are lecture base and teacher center and not student center. Second problem is that examination system that we follow is inadequate. An examinations which lasts about 2 to 3 hours is only memory test and is not proper, comprehensive system for emulating the students, finally all burden comes on students.
|#279593 Author: K Mohan Member Level: Platinum Member Rank: 3 Date: 15/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
I think a failure or fail in exam is not the end for life of the student. Fail could have been possible because of many reasons and that should not deter the student to take any hard stance. Life is full of challenges and a fail in exam is not the end of the world. So be cheerful and never be down even after failure. Let the world speak wrong about you, but move forward with grace and achieve the success.
Lets come closer and make our life more wiser.
|#279734 Author: Tasaduq Hussain Wani Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 464 Date: 16/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
Examination is not the real test of life. Even great scholars and eggheads have been failures at their times. Einstein was very weak at Mathematics and Hawkins was poor at studies, but it is well known to all of us how influencial they are because of their works. Failure never matters and one should be mentally prepared to face it always. Their is always a ray of hope and hard work can do everything for you. So just in for it without fear.
"Every charitable act is a stepping stone towards heaven"
|#279788 Author: Nupur Khalkho Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 306 Date: 16/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 1|
One failure should not stop everything in ones life. It should be determination to take the lead and not dismay. Failures help us to become stronger.
|#279790 Author: Nupur Khalkho Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 306 Date: 16/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 2|
Man is the masterpiece of the creator. Every person is unique. Science is important but without arts imagine how the world would be. There is nothing to get dismayed but enthusiasm and self confidence should be there to go always onwards and upwards.
|#279797 Author: Pooja Somaiya Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 2159 Date: 16/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
Failure is a part of life.
What is life if a person has just seen success in it.
It is a very common saying on this, that life is just 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to the situation.
Patience and endurance is the key.
Any student who undergoes failure, be it in exams, studies or relationships, should never lose heart. There is always light at the end of a dark tunnel. It requires just a bit of courage to pass through the tunnel.
|#279894 Author: asif Member Level: Bronze Member Rank: 4049 Date: 16/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 2|
failure is not the end of life
but it should be taken as start of a new attemp
and one can get success only through an attempt
if you are not attempting how are you going to get success???
so just dont die heart when you fail stand up and head for a new start!!!
|#279912 Author: Bhawna Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 4310 Date: 16/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 5|
Somewhere or the other some parents and schools are also responsible for the depression of students. The pressure given by them are so much that the student really feel confused what to do or not?
First of all, to avoid crime of suicides parents and teachers should understand that all fingers can never be equal. If all students stood first in their class then what is the meaning of other ranks!
Secondly, the pressure given to them to score high in every exams are also wrong. Sometimes it depends upon syllabus as well as class standard also that not every child will score high in the class everytime.
Thirdly, we have seen the burden of syllabus is really very much even in very junior classes. It should be reduced. It seems our country wants to compete with other countries in the field of education. Thats why they have over-burdened the kids with huge syllabus. But it is resulting in negative way...
|#282140 Author: Bhagwana Ram Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 1263 Date: 24/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
Commiting suicide incident of failure students increasing day by day. Due to lack of proper advice and absence in proper care taker studen came into differation after failure in exam and they lost patience. They can not decide what do we do now and see only one thing commit suicide. Student should take the failureness as the series of success. They should exercise like yoga. They should talk with their friends to ascape tension and they should find the solution to get success by discuss with friends and parents.
|#282207 Author: Mohammed Ali Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 537 Date: 24/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 5|
There are many news for a student's suicide case because many students fail in their 10th and puc examination because some get confused with the course they choose and some will be fully mind depressed with the subject,this only happens when a student does not like that particular course or a subject.
The best advice to be given to a failed student is to motivate him to study well and try the best for the next time with full effort which will surely lead him to success. It does not matter if a student fails because it matters him only to complete the course or school so failing is not a shame because failure will be faced by each and every person in his life, he will never come up when he does not face obstacles in his career.
Each and every students in these days are very clever that many students are being sent for abroads for higher studies and india is full of well educated peoples where all are very much united and they are ready to face each and every consequences of the life.
"A man who is ready to achieve is fit to advice"
|#282214 Author: Saji Ganesh Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 62 Date: 24/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 5|
The number of students committing suicide due to failure in exams is increasing day by day. The problem basically lies in the fact that the children of the present generation are too weak mentally that they can't cope up with any failures. All the modern facilities available to them have made them to think that success can be achieved very easily. Added to this is the pressure put up on them by parents to keep their children in the race lest their prestige in the society might suffer. For instance, I was very poor in maths, so I decided to opt for other streams in my pre-degree and my parents had no objection. But now the situation is different. Except in a few households, you find parents wanting their children to swim according to their fancies. This naturally has a negative effect. Present day teachers(mostly) seem to be least bothered about the intellect or capability of a student. For them all are students. They complete the syllabus and wash off their hand after conducting the exams. All this puts lot of pressure on a student and when he or she doesn't rise up to the expected level they take to the extreme step. Service of an expert Counselor must be made mandatory in all schools. Depression is a mental state requiring proper psychological treatment and should be dealt with utmost care. Let our children pursue their studies as per their interest. A below average student should neither be pressurized nor should hope raised in him that if he studies more he can become a rank holder. Actually this is a very good topic by Sri T. Syed Rizwan and has lot of scope for a detailed analysis and deliberation.
|#282265 Author: n.p.raju Member Level: Bronze Member Rank: 3965 Date: 24/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
Failure and success are the two hands of the life.We should take it asa challenge when we are failed.Failure should be taken sportively and with dedication and concentration they can win the exam.Slow and steady makes the race win.It means we should have patience and challenging.Try try until u succeed.
*Develop positive thinking.
*Remember how parents are struggling and sacrificing for our sake.If we are really aware of that we wont commit suicide.
* Dedication is very important.
*discuss with your parents and friends ask for guidelines and follow.
|#282591 Author: Archana Sonti Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 2173 Date: 25/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 5|
I don't give any advise to the student when he is depressed for the reason of failing in an examination.
First I advise the parents to spend more time to understand what their kid needs or interest is, next I advise teacher because it is the responsibility of the teacher and speaks the teacher incapability to reach that particular student well.
And we need to understand what is an examination - Answering few questions in a certain time limit but, is this the only life ?
Here I give example of the India's Favorite cricketer Sachin Tendulkar and many more examples of famous personalities are there which am not able to remember instantly.
Parents try to force their kids in so and so course or subject because that degree earn them good job or more income without knowing their kid personal interest. So if somebody try to study the subject which is not of their interest or choice, 'Depressions happens !' and it is very natural.
Students also should stand firm on the decision of studying a degree or subject of their own interest.
My life is a best example here, I was good at studies always stood first or second in studies so, my father insisted me to write IAS exam so I can be secure with a government salary and a house with a car facility in 1991. But my interest was in drawing and painting so I took admission against my father wish in an fine arts college at JNTU Hyderabad. I don't say my father was wrong but if I would have studied according to his interest I would have been a person without joy or self satisfaction.
For this reason he didn't support my studies so I did part-time jobs and studied BFA and also my MFA in painting, PG course at Hyderabad Central university (HCU) all by myself and today am well respected professional painter in India. when newspapers and magazines took my interview and wrote about me my father showed my interview and photo in newspaper to his friends and relatives and used to say 'see my daughter is so great !' (now he is no more, died with heart attack at an early age in his 59years)
That's how students also should take courage to pursue whatever they feel right for them. My life is a good example for anybody that I can suggest.
|#282597 Author: Mala Jaiswar Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 154 Date: 25/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 5|
Encouraging parents will go a long way in removing the depression of students caused by low marks. Parents need to understand that children are human beings and not robots who will automatically produce the required amount of turnover in exams if given the required amount of studies. A lot of factors apart from studies go into making students efficient in studies. The encouragement and kind attitude of parents will go a long way in the performance of their children in studies. I know a kid who was a whiz at studies, always used to excel in his exams. But then his dad became an alcoholic and used to beat his mom every night and abuse other members in the family too. All of a sudden his grades went down and he became depressed even though he was getting the best of tuition and was studying in a convent school. So, the situation at the home of the child is important too. The environment at home should be peaceful and he/she should feel loved and secured at all times. Parents should also understand that if once in a while a child fails in a subject, IT IS OK, it is at that time when the love and encouragement of his parents are more needed instead of abuses, beatings and sarcastic remarks. See?
|#282856 Author: Vandana Member Level: Platinum Member Rank: 8 Date: 26/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 1|
Since this topic is generating a lot of good, sensible views, we will keep this thread open for a few more days.
|#283255 Author: Urmimala Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 2653 Date: 26/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
Over expectation of ambitious parents to make their children and the unhealthy rat race toeards the number one position make children sick . They are becoming more and more bookish and selfish , unable to enjoy the vigour and colours of life. They from the childhood are mere depressed creatures. Whemever they fail to reach the elevated pedestal they commit suicide. We should change our attitudes towards them , we should sympathaze them , encourage them and be with them to realize the very old saying which we know from our childhood, "failure is the pillar of success".
|#283291 Author: Sharada Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 414 Date: 26/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
Failure is a part of every success. For example, you are climbing the steps of a building which is spilled with soap water and you are wearing shoes. After climbing 5 to 6 steps you skid, tend to fall but hold the bar aside. This helps to make you stand stiff. So note that you will always have a hand to support, the main thing is you have to hold it at the right time-that is when you falling.
The later steps you will place it so promptly that you will never skid nor you will require a support further. Hence failure is one step over the success in your career.
|#283295 Author: Manoj Member Level: Bronze Member Rank: 0 Date: 27/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 1|
Its very Normal a student go into depression... We can just give them a break and make them do what they believe in..
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|#283364 Author: Anil Kumar Aitwal Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 272 Date: 27/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 2|
It is not the end of the world. Failing in exams is not the same as failing in life. Sometimes it is best to fail and realise where one has gone wrong. He should then use his failure as a stepping stone towards success and reach higher and emerge stronger than his peers.
|#283501 Author: vijay Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 2230 Date: 27/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
Students should understand that failing in an exam is not a big issue or problem, when compared with other problems to be faced in future it's nothing not even a percent.
For instance, take sachin tendulkar he failed to clear is high school examinations but he worked hard and became a best cricketer in the world, he achieved that by not committing suicide's and other foolish activities.
So failing in exams is not a big issue, there is no need to feel ashamed of failing in exams.
|#284673 Author: kiranreddy munnangi Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 2157 Date: 30/Jan/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
You feel sad for failing in exam.Just think why you feel sad I think you feel you are not intellegent like the one who get good marks in exam.But really examination,marks are not criteria for intellegence..Thomas alva edison who invented the light was failed many times in his schooling but he invented current.So concentrate on studies write exam again if fail again try to find in which you have the skills and develope that.Life will not stop with your exams or marks.There are many things in the world to prove ourselfs.Get ready to prove self.
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|#288919 Author: Madhvee Chaubey Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 57 Date: 11/Feb/2012 Rating: Points: 0|
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