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Posted Date: 18 May 2012 Posted By:: suman  Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 3576 Points: 5
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hello
Being a student, a daughter I always knew what is the real mening of family.Howsoever we fight wuth our parents one day we realise their value.One thing that always amazed me is that why do they guys expect one or two things more from us?I am not saying this because I have felt this.Their is nothing like that.I am saying because I have seen it my all around.The most important thing among a child and parent is trust.The day you loose it everthing ends.Parents should tryst their chind even if he/she is not worth it.I think it will work.Ultimarely ut will made your child realise that he/she has done something wrong.
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#317669 Author:  Nadeem Naqvi Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 103 Date: 18/May/2012 Rating:  Points: 5 |
I agree that the relation between the children and the parents is only on trust and this is the most important factor of life. If there is no trust then there cannot be any relation in this world. For example, you should closely monitor a mother feeding her new born baby with spoon. The baby is too small to understand words but the mother is opening her own mouth to make the baby seen the action and respond so that she can place the spoon in his mouth. This is a relation which shows trust and faith.
Likewise the children are just asking for things from their parents not from outsiders is because they have faith that their demands will be paid heed to.
But what about our relation with God? He loves us more than our parents and when we ask for things from Him we have a doubt and this is the reason why our prayers are not being responded to many time.
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#317679 Author:  K Mohan Member Level: Platinum Member Rank: 4 Date: 18/May/2012 Rating: Points: 4 |
Suman being a new member I must appreciate your guts to come with the most emotional question which is being faced in every home across the country. But being a parent of two children I always feel that it is the duty of the children to follow the elders and they must listen to their advise. After all parents are not your enemies and remember what ever they does it is for your well being. You have made a comment that why the parents ask more from you. It is natural. Because you are growing up, the expectations of parents are also high and there nothing wrong in their expressions. Please note that you loose nothing listening to elders.
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| #317683 Author: suman Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 3576 Date: 18/May/2012 Rating: Points: 1 |
Thanks for replying mr.mohan.I think you got me wrong I am saying let your children do watever they want, after doing one attempt to make them understand leav everything to them.The era has gone when you wished something from them and it is like they are just going to do everything for it.Give them a chance to test themselve, whatever may be the age and second time if they would think of doing something , you will be the first to get asked.
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#317696 Author:  Iti Tyagi Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 47 Date: 18/May/2012 Rating: Points: 5 |
Yes I agree that there is a need of mutual relation between parents and child where they should trust his or her abilities. And also there is no point in not believing on him or her. So what if they have done some sort of huge mistake in the past? They will steal money, they will try to sneak in and watch what is required them to watch, they will try to drink, smoke, they will have an affair too, so what is most important is that you should guide them, after all ts normal and this is not the only time a kid has done all this. They will do it and this what their duty is, to stop their child instead of creating a scene every time even on the very first mistake they make.
I remember, once my elder sister sole hundred rupee from mumy purse, she gave treat to all her friends as there was a peer pressure, to my surprise what I feel today, my parents over reacted, she is even commented today what she did in 4th standard and never repeated that. So I feel today that there were other ways, she cried whole night and I like a stupid kid was watching her.
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#317729 Author:  Lienda Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 160 Date: 18/May/2012 Rating: Points: 5 |
Hi
What you said is really true and i do agree with you. Most of take our parents' love and affection for granted and we never realize their true value until we are on the verge of losing it. We children have the tendency to take things for granted all the time. Parents always care for us and they are ready to spend anythings for the welfare of their child. No matter how good, bad, beautiful, ugly, naughty, quiet their child is, for them their child is the first and the only one to be shower with love in the whole world. Our parents do not want anything from us in return if we look too deep into the matter, the only thing they want is the betterment of ourselves only. They want us to be happy, well settled, and to become a good person in our life. We want us to do something and to become something in life and for them this is the biggest gift we can give it to them.
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#317733 Author:  Rahaman Baig Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 158 Date: 18/May/2012 Rating: Points: 5 |
Hi suman,
I think parents are the best in understanding their child's capacity and they do expect more from us be it love be it performance or be it time becuase they knew that their child can give much more which is quite natural. On the other way round we also expected more from our parents. So this is quite common in parents and children.
To give an example when I was a kid I use to feel the same that my parents are expecting more from me in terms of studies and performance this is only to make you give your best shot and not to become complacent. But please do understand that no parent will put more pressure on the child beyond the child's bearable limit they may take you to the maximum extent. Now as a parent I know my kid can deliver more than what he is and no even an iota of doubt that he is capable of doing but some times he postpones, becomes lazy then I do have to apply some pressure and expect more but not beyond the limit.
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#317749 Author:  Sachin Rambhau Kukale  Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 157 Date: 18/May/2012 Rating: Points: 5 |
I am agree with you. The relationship between parents and child is very much of importance in lives both. This relation should be nurtured through trust, love and understanding. According to me every parents try to trust on their children but they are making same mistakes again and again then there will be not trust between them. I have seen one of my friend who always lies his parents for almost everything. After some days parents realize that he told lie to them. It happened many times in their home. Also I tried to understand him that he should not behave like this but he says yes and does whatever he wants again. I think he has not yet realized the importance of parents till now. But one day, I am sure he will realize the importance of his parents.
Upon everything one thing is sure, parents can't avoid love for their children. The most tragedy in this relationship is that we can't understand importance of our parents when they are with us but we really feel emptiness in hour heart when they are not with us.
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| #317757 Author: Anisha Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 1832 Date: 19/May/2012 Rating: Points: 2 |
But trust is an essence not only in a relationship between a parent and child but also in all other relationships. Its the driving force that helps us in understanding the other person in the relationship, may that other person be a friend, lover, sister or even your brother. Hence, every relationships need trust as its base.
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#317819 Author:  Freddy Thomson Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 277 Date: 19/May/2012 Rating: Points: 4 |
I agree with you friend. Trust is the basic of any life and if we lose that part what is the essence of life?. In any relationship trust is essential matter and there is nothing more important than that. But a blind trust can lead to bad effects. We should be trustful and should believe our child. But if the child misuses the trust? So a controlled trust is essential in every relationship. Over trust in someone may get misused. So trust is essential but we should be careful in getting that under a limit. So I agree with your view. To read the minds of children trust is the best medicine.
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