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Why should women wear signs of marriage?
Posted Date: 12 Sep 2012 Posted By:: Sam Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 435 Points: 3
In India, we have mangalsutra, sindoor, toe ring, green bangles etc that are wore by women indicating that they are married. But there is nothing to identify if a man is married!
I wonder why should only women wear signs of marriage? Why does people go "oh" "mshe wants to flirt" if a married woman does not wish to do it.
|#351647 Author: Veena Sharma Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 29 Date: 12/Sep/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
It is one of the tights question in this world and especially in India. In foreign I really don't see such type of attitude. There both the married couple have their wedding ring with them; to show that they are married.
But here in India only women are suppose to show that they are married. But traditional the husband is given a ring to wear to indicate he is married, which we now called Mangni ki Anghudhi.
But man don't wear it; so now we really don't think it why they don't. It is male dominated world; so we really can't help.
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|#351652 Author: Chitra Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 74 Date: 12/Sep/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
@ Sam, Men do have some signs that indicate they are married. I have seen men wearing a ring in which his wife's name is encrypted. In our traditional culture, this ring is given to the groom by the bride at the time of marriage after he ties the mangalsuthra. But not all men wear it and now not all married girls also wear the mangalsuthra, ring, sindhoor and all. I have seen north Indian girls wearing red bangles to show they are married. It looks nice when they wear salwar but some people wear jeans and wear these bangles, that looks awkward.
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|#351733 Author: Mala Jaiswar Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 70 Date: 13/Sep/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
This is a good question! Actually there is no logical reason behind it, married women do this simply because it is a part of tradition which has passed on from generation to generation. Our mothers used to wear bangles after marriage, their mothers did likewise after marriage and even their mothers...However there are many married ladies specially in metro cities who dress in pants, tops, t-shirts etc and don't use such things(except the sindoor). So you cannot say that all married ladies follow this trend.
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|#351768 Author: Adesola Adeyeye Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 919 Date: 13/Sep/2012 Rating: Points: 2|
Hello, people in the house. Here, there is nothing wrong with wearing rings and bracelet. I, as a person wears too. It is good to show that you are married, so that single guys and ladies will stop disturbing you. So ladies in the house please keep wearing it, it is very good and ok.
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|#351786 Author: Sudhan Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 129 Date: 13/Sep/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
I think that these signs are important for someone to show whether the person is married or not. But as of now I think most of the women and men are not following this. It is the thing that gives importance to regional belief and traditions of our country. I don't think there are any other country that gives importance to these things and it is only in India where this thing is given so much of importance. It is not a wrong thing as it is our traditional practice but due to the westernization this thing is loosing its value and now a days no one is following this. It is a thing that can protect the girls.
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|#351873 Author: Sam Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 435 Date: 13/Sep/2012 Rating: Points: 1|
It is not about if we should wear it or not, or wear it with jeans or salwar. Why is it that only women are forced to wear signs of marriage? What if a woman does not want to follow it? I know some women in cities do not follow it, but then what is wrong in that? Isn't just these traditions made by us? If a woman does not want to wear these signs, why does society think "that woman is married, but still does not wear a mangalsutra/sindoor. She wants to flirt with guys"
@Sudhan: I personally don't think that wearing these things protects women!! Do you really think men do not stare at married women wearing mangalsutra and sindoor??
|#361111 Author: helen Member Level: Bronze Member Rank: 4618 Date: 12/Oct/2012 Rating: Points: -10|
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|#361136 Author: Jeets Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 208 Date: 12/Oct/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
To get this answer we have to go back many-many years back from where these customs has started. Right now I can't say it is right or wrong for a woman to wear marriage sign because I should know the fact before replying your questions. But men do have their marriage ring to show that he is married.
Personally I really do not see any problem if women do not wear their marriage sign but this is also true that marriage women look very good when they wear all these. Just in my case I never press anything to my wife. But when she dress all marriage sign she look better.
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|#361167 Author: Priyanka GRoychoudhury Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 320 Date: 12/Oct/2012 Rating: Points: 4|
I believe, if any married Hindu lady doesn't feel comfortable wearing 'sindoor' or bangles/rings or any signs of marriage than it should be ok; for I don't think today's society has time enough to act watchdog. However it's really hard for me to believe, there is any woman who feels uncomfortable/self-conscious wearing these, or at least the sindoor(as all Indian ornaments don't go quite well with western apparel). Ladies have been wearing these as a part of the great Indian culture and tradition that has been passed on through generations. In ancient India both men and women used to wear ornaments on various parts of the body(I doubt Sindoor was applied or not). I have seen men wearing their marriage ring and lovingly showing to others.
|#361220 Author: Meenu Singla Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 1331 Date: 12/Oct/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
Its our Indian culture which encourages such things for both men and women but we have maintained it. Today ladies wear modern dresses even though they wear light weight mangalsutras rather than heavy ones (as used earlier) or sindoor as a sign of marriage. I agree that men are somewhat behind in this case as they don't wear ring or anything as a sign of marriage but they too wear it on family occassions.
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|#361224 Author: Kalyani Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 21 Date: 12/Oct/2012 Rating: Points: 5|
Indian society has been a male dominated one from ages and though women were / are given due respect yet they were suppressed in the name of society and social inhibitions. Woman has been / is considered weaker in mind and body than man and men always had tried / have been trying to use women for fulfilling his lust or biological need besides using her for looking after the family needs. Keeping this in view to keep the men's ill-intentions on women at bay, the society made it almost customary for women to wear the signs of marriage like Mangalsutra, sindoor and the like. These are just safe-guarding the women from the ill-intentions of men in the olden days. If a man happens to see these signs of marriage on a woman, he is supposed to have a change of mind. But, things have changed these days which is known to everyone and needs no mention here.
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|#361262 Author: K Mohan Member Level: Platinum Member Rank: 4 Date: 12/Oct/2012 Rating: Points: 3|
India is the land of civilized people drawn from different religion and diversities. Take any religion for that matter a married women is identified with some marriage sign or other to differentiate her from others. More over a women becomes more possessive and belonging to the In laws family once married. Therefore a married women in India must sport a sign of her marriage for the betterment of her.
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