Forgive Yourself!

A short story:
"An architect who complained of depression reported that he feel very upset at the way he treated his wife for the ten years of his married life. He used to physically assault her and frequently abuse her. Now that she is dead and the children are married and gone. He keeps thinking why he was so cruel to her. This is the thought that he wakes up with and is also the last thought before he sleeps; just don't know whether he will ever overcome this feelings." Is it possible to forgive ourselves for the pain we have inflicted on others or the damage we have caused?

Most psychologists believe that it is not only possible but necessary that we forgive ourselves for the past wrongs if we're to live fully in the present. Trying to evade past wrongs, repress our memories or making excuses is what most people tend to resort to none of these has the power of forgiveness.

To forgive yourself does not mean that you should forget what you did or said that might have injured another. To forgive yourself also doesn't mean you aren't responsible for what you did or said. Forgiving yourself means you recognize that you didn't know hoe to do something differently and realize you have learnt by your mistakes.

In the real world, most people work against those who forgive themselves,, because hey would want to see you live forever with whatever it is that you have done wrong. Therefore, it takes tremendous courage to forgive ourselves.

An Exercise:
If you'd like to practice a forgiveness exercise, close your eyes and imagine that you are standing the same way as you were when you did something wrong and say to yourself: "When I did, I was hurt and angry. When I think about what I said or did, I had let myself feel anger, pain, and bitterness. I believe that I should have said or done something differently. But I no longer choose to hold on to the hurt that accompanies my memory of what I said or did. I am totally responsible for my action and deeds. I now send my love and acceptance to myself as a human being."

Conclusion:
As you say all these words, allow yourself to be both the giver and receiver of forgiveness feel the release of tension.

Thanks & Regards!

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