Some parenting tips: teaching the lessons of friendship to children

3 factors important for good friendship

1. In order that the growth of your child is better off, following 3 factors are essential to be taught to your lovely child for making friends and keep servicing it longer.
   
2. How the dialogue is to be initiated with the persons your child has never met with earlier.
   
3. How to present himself in front of others in a positive manner.
   
4. The art of finding out the solutions has to be taught tor child after a fight/quarrel without nurturing any malice or rancour in heart in future.

Paying attention to some facts of your child

• When the child is in park etc with some other children, make a closer observation of his behaviour. Compare his behaviours with that of the behaviours of other children- particularly with that child who is most popular in the gathering.
  
• Try to understand those qualities which your child is found wanting in and which he needs to inculcate.
  
• Also try to find out the hidden good traits of your child, which if chiselled up by you might turn him capable of inviting attentions of others. For example, try to find this out whether your child tries always to create hurdle in ways of others and or to become bossing around? Does he start weeping and hauling when things are not according to his wishes? It’d be in his behaviour itself that the solution could be found out.
  
• For learning anything, a phase wise method needs to be adopted. This goes ditto as well for the beginning of a good friendship relation. Tell him what he must do one after the other. In order to teach this, choose such a situation or an atmosphere, from which the child learns and have the experience on his own. As for example, when your child informs of the arrival of a new child in his classroom with whom he wants to establish friendship, advise him to go near him saying hello smilingly and propose him to make him his friend. This would enhance the degree friendship.
  
• To develop friendship with newer children, you can ask him to rehearse the art of making friends at your home. Play the role of the newer student yourself with your child and ask your child to propose to be friends with you. Also tell of the probable reaction of the newer friend after the proposal is made to him. The hesitation of your child would rub off if he practices the art thus at home. He shall feel confident in meeting persons and mixing with them.
  
• Always react positively on any matter of your child saying whatever he has already done was correct After this, try to drive this in his mind as to how possibly he could improvements in his behaviour. Always take care of this that you want to teach positive qualities and not of course the negative ones. Also give off the impression that criticising is not the aim but improvisation is the point therein.
  
• In this course, you too have to be glued up with high degree patience. Grooming child is not a child’s play. Teaching the nuances of social etiquettes to children is not that easy. The capacity of learning this quality varies from child to child. What you want to teach children should be supported and presented with your own doings for him to emulate. Look at your child, he is what he is what you are yourself my dear friend.