How to 'service' your relationships

Introduction

Life is never constant. It changes. And our relationships change too. As time passes we often look back at life and observe what we gained and lost. It is painful to observe that we have lost a relationship. To keep relationships healthy it is necessary that they be 'serviced' from time to time the way you service your car for long term use.

Why is 'servicing' of relationships necessary?

All relationships require time and attention whether it be a husband wife relationship, parent child relationship, friendship relationship, brother sister relationship etc. In the fast moving life of today not many people have time. Due to the lack of time we are not able to live our relationships. This causes complains in relationships. If we keep giving the excuse that we don't have time for the relationship, one day the other person in the relationship will not have time for us. No matter how successful and rich we become in life, relationships are necessary for all of us. Else we will face depression and loneliness.If we don't 'service' our relationships in time, they will break away and we will end up alone. Nurturing a relationship makes it stronger and enables it to grow. We feel good and refreshed. It is also necessary to 'service' your relationships so that our partners understand our need for them.

How to 'service' relationships?

Communication is the base of all relationships. It is necessary to take time to communicate with one another in a relationship.

The next factor is sharing and caring. When we share even little things in our life with others, it adds intimacy to the relationship. If if the relationship if that of friends, once you share your personal and little things with friends, they will appreciate your need for them. Similarly caring is also necessary. It is a good idea to call once in a while to your family at home even if you are busy in office. It shows that you care.

If somebody is sick, can that person to know how he/she is doing. This will show him/her that you care and will strengthen the relationship.

Arrange get together and outings with your family members or friends whenever time permits. Don't forget to take a gift for special occasions like birthdays.

Always remember anniversaries and birthdays of people so that you are able to remind them on time. People will appreciate that.

Learn to trust the people you love. Relationships are based on trust. Stop passing judgments on people too.

Keep trying to add energy to your relationships. Don't let it get dull. Don't keep too much expectations on people. While it is natural to place some expectations on any relationship, see whether your expectations are reasonable or not. If a person in the relationship is not able to fulfill your expectations, ask yourself whether you have been able to fulfill that person's expectations also.

Give little surprises. Once in a while come back early from home and spend time with your family. Shock your family members by taking them for movies or dinner without prior announcement.

Don't make the mistake of ignoring one relationship in place of the other. Every relationship is important. Understand this and try to fulfill all relationships.

Don't forget friends after marriage. Some people get busy with their family life after marriage and forget friends. On the other hand some people keep honoring old friends after marriage ignoring the husband/wife. Both these ways are wrong. It is necessary to maintain a balance.

Don't be hesitant to praise people. Praising somebody can enhance your relationship with him/her.

Never let your ego come in way of any relationships. Ego has destroyed many relationships.

If you feel that you have made a mistake, don't hesitate to apologize to that person.

Additional tips

Don't neglect the requirements of any relationships.

Don't remain too much in fantasies/imaginations. Learn to recognize the weaknesses/flaws in any relationship and try to repair them.

Don't hide your fears with others, share them.

Try to understand the other person's emotions/feelings even if he/she does not express them. This will intensify your relationship.

Don't be afraid to take responsibilities

Learn to control your anger in case of arguments.

Understand that arguments and quarrels are a part of any relationship. Don't take this seriously.

How to 'service' your relationships

Introduction

Why is 'servicing' of relationships necessary?

How to 'service' relationships?

Additional tips

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