IntroductionWhen I was small my mother used to tell me that marriages are made in heaven When I grew up I had or I still have one question. Where were marital abuses or marital discord made? How come more than 60% of the married couples get divorced?
If you look at celebrity couples, then you will see numerous such broken-up relationships. It is so sad that we rejoice when our favorite movie star or sports star gets married. But what do you know? The very next year these couples might get separated. Sadly, this is true for any other person also. Divorce has now become a routine.
Significance of marriageMarriage means a bond. A bond shared between two persons, two families, two destinies, and two different clans. It is not a two minute affair. People take years of time to know each other and each other's families.
Does the couple getting married follow the vows till death? In any religion the vows of marriage always have the "Till death do us apart clause." Every couple says this vow, no matter in what language. But before death, arguments, misunderstandings, disrespectful attitude towards each other makes a marriage fall apart.
Causes of Marital Discord
Remedies to save a marriage from the above evils
ConclusionMarriages are truly made in heaven and getting a soulmate is a bliss. Please always remember this. So many people do not find their love of life. So why do people let go their spouses so easily? Just a few household arguments and you decide to part ways? Is it so simple to break all family ties? Then why did you get into marital bonding in the first place? Think really hard before you think of ending your marriage.
Ego and lack of tolerance are the main reason for quarrel and divorce. Obeying the husband's words does not mean that their freedom is forfeited and if they think like this it just denotes their ignorance and foolishness. I and my wife never quarreled on any issues on any single day in our 27 years life. Now I am shedding tears and tears daily as she lost her breath on 20th March 2015. She was very accommodating and indicated to me boldly whenever I erred. Secondly, the sworn before vow of Agni during the marriage should be honored and it is never an easy thing to deceive the God, Agni. There should be a fear in one's mind about the taking vows Agni.
I agree that lack of tolerance is a big reason to end marriages. In fact, today you would see marriages of celebrities ending very quickly due to the sheer lack of tolerance.
I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. From your comment it is very much evident that you loved your wife very dearly. In addition to what you said, I would also like to say that a husband also doesn't become inferior to his wife or doesn't lose his independence if he listens to his wife or works according to what his wife says.
The statement 'more than 60% of the married couples get divorced' made by the author in the 'Introduction' part of the article appears to be a gross generalization to say the least. Nowadays by the time one gets married, the partners have their own, almost fully developed, personalities. Prior to the actual marriage, during courtship, efforts should be made to identify specific personality traits and see to it as to how many of these are matching. With the spread of education and self dependence among women, such trends are emerging gradually. Marriage is after all a matter of adjustments. Both the partners have to be accommodating to each other's point of view. The most crucial factor in making or breaking a marriage is fidelity. Even in western open societies, married couples are not supposed to indulge in sex outside marriages though trends like swapping partners etc. are also emerging in certain societies.
To avoid separation from relationship, both of them should learn to compromise on significant issues. Once, they are into relationship, they should not grumble for something that is not present in their partner. Both of them should always have the space to openly communicate with each other. Both of them should understand the requirement of independence of each other.
In the modern situation when there is online tutorial and Do-It-Yourself guidelines for anything and everything, this article serves the purpose of a DIY on how to avoid common discords in marital life. Hence it is a relevant one for both genders.
I wonder, how in early generation, our parents and grandparents and their ancestors lived happily quite long without any of these lessons and articles.
The marital discords and increasing divorces are all have cause in modern life style and life situations. Hence the solutions also should come from modern situations and facilities. Articles like the one here can be an early preliminary help in this regard.
Nice article appended by the author. In modern days the love marriages are more than the arranged marriages. Why? Because the girl or the boy who gets a good job in MNC or other organization would find a life partner working there itself and arrive at the conclusion that they are made for each other. Broad mindedness on the part of both male and female must match here. They have to convince the need for marrying the person belonging and working to same company and the advantages of it. But over the years due to work promotions and salary increase the difference of opinion between the two widens and that leads to petty to major face off daily and that leads to divorce. The ego on both sides plays worst role and the elders has to bow for the divorce. Good sense must prevail as both of them are educated and liked each other without the involvement of elders and therefore they should not bring the issue to the elders on divorce.