How to spend quality time with children


The busy schedules with competition, targets and deadlines kills away the time that parent should be spending with their children. In this article, I have tried to bring about small ways that could be exercised by the parents to spend quality time with their children and family.

The busy and competitive world today has left little time for the parents to act as parents, especially both of them work. Parents often struggle to have some quality time with children, let alone the family trips. The holiday schedules of the parents not matching with that of the children finally crushes the little hearts and the small plans taking place therein. The state of affairs at home gets shoddier when there is a single child with both parents working.

Who is to be blamed

Don't we as parents realize the importance of spending quality time with our children. Don't we know that the child needs us the most at this stage? Lack of parental nourishment may do havoc to the child. Still we tend to give a blind eye to the situation.. Parents' plea, whatever we are doing is for the future of the child only. There is not much that can be done at their end to make up for the loss. May be they are right on their part, but in the rat race, it the child who is left alone. The child may also have similar feelings when the younger sibling, the new born is given the attention that once belonged to him

If things are not looked upon seriously, it may take a wrong turn and very much beyond our control. The child may create a shell around him and may bar the entry of others ton his world. Else the child may even look for other avenues to fill in the gap created due to the busy world of his parents.

Well, we will always be working, but our children's childhood would disappear within years never to come back again. The damage done at this age will remain not rectified. This needs to be seen seriously. To begin with, start with spending some quality time with your children. Well there are some easy ways that can be adopted as a first step towards spending time with children.

Steal some moments

Steal some moments out of your busy schedule each day. Talk to your kids about their day and their studies and on any other routine topic. Such times could be at the breakfast table, snacks time or before they start off with their home assignments. Kids may also be taken to the super markets for the weekly grocery purchases. This could be a good avenue to know about the interests and likeness of your kid. You would really be surprised to know how soon the child grows right before your eyes with his interests taking an even swifter turn.

Just the two of you

A parent-child relationship is a special one. Sometimes you need to recreate an atmosphere for only the two of you. A one-on-one conversation is much important to understand for the child's psychology. Kids of all age group seek their parents' attention. And some need a little more depending on the age group they fall into. Make this time a special one. It could be either your home, the drive way to home or when your spouse has taken the other kid out. Talk to your child. Know what excites him. Let him understand why you are not able to give much time on a regular basis. Still let him have the assurances that you are always there when needed.

Note writing

You can always drop in a note for them or a card for them in their school bags or the lunch boxes. They would also love a caring note at the lunch table or their study table in your absence when they come home after the school. Such simple dropping of notes makes the children feel more cared and loved by the parents.

Day Out

Plan a day with the children. Spend the entire day with them. Be it to the museum, the movies, and a family picnic or to any exhibition. But be one among them atleast for the day. If at home, play their games.

Short Walks

Start the regular short walks with your child. It is a nice way to start the day. You know each other schedules and plans for the day and can later on plan an outing if it can be adjusted. The child also gets to know about the regular work load that you shoulder before coming back to him in the evening.

Theme Dinner

Organize a theme dinner from time to time. It could be a Chinese dinner or dinner with dress code. Also ask the children to help you set the dinner table in accordance with the theme chosen.. This way they would be happy with their part of the contribution.

Movies at home

You may plan a movie right at the comforts of your home. Don't keep any other engagements at that hour. Keep popcorns and ice cream with you to give the feeling of the cinema theatre.

Bedtime togetherness

Small children may want your presence while they are put to sleep. Keep this time reserved for them. A bed time story is one of the ways of hanging up with the children at this hour. But you may also keep this time for updating yourself as for their day's engagements. These 15 minutes of bedtime togetherness does wonders. As for me, I just love to cuddle up with my son while he sleeps. This may also be adopted for waking up your child if he is too young to wake up himself.

These are just some of the ways of spending quality time with your children. But the parents do need to put in some efforts to find out ways and means of spending some time with family and children amidst their busy schedules to keep the family united and protected from wrong influence.


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Comments

Author: Ramachandran Pattabiraman15 Mar 2016 Member Level: Diamond   Points : 3

Good and needy posting! Thiruvalluvar, a Tamil poet before so many years wrote in his Thirukkural that 'Yaazhinithu kuzhalinithu enbar tham makkal mazhalaich chol kelaathavar' (Kural 7-66) which means those who do not listen the tender voice of their children used to tell that the sound of flute/veena is sweet. In many houses we see that the children are left by parents to grow themselves in the name of freedom but they lose their freedom totally.

Author: Sheo Shankar Jha15 Mar 2016 Member Level: Gold   Points : 2

We can see stiff competition all around be it an office or a factory where dads are putting their best efforts to achieve their targets and even the mothers of children have little time for their loved ones' in the wake preoccupation of their assignment in different fields. The net result is that the off-spring are deprived of their legitimate right of having closeness with the parents. Such deprivation of talks and lacking guidance from their parents certainly cause voids in their love relationships and such pattern would result in dislocation of the personalities of the children.

The author has considered all the vital points required to be inculcated so that the children may enjoy the quality times with their parents. Mere giving instructions to their loved ones' and not having enough time for their kids would not produce positive results.

Sparing the bus schedule, the parents should be affectionate and should ask how their kids are mingling with colleagues in the schools and what sort of problems they are facing in day to day affair. Such interactions would help in fostering a healthy relationship between the children and parents. By implementing the points as suggested by the author would go a long way in strengthening the relationships between the children and parents.

Guest Author: Ridhima Banu16 Mar 2016

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Author: Kailash Kumar18 Mar 2016 Member Level: Platinum   Points : 2

I have always wondered as to how the parents are never able to find adequate time to spend with their children. Raising the children is one of the most important duty and responsibility of the parents. Since they live in the same house, there is always a possibility of being together. Even sitting in same room together with the child studying while the parent doing his own work renders psychological support to each other. Eating together, just dropping to school while going to office or sleeping together are spending time together. In case of grown up children away from the home even being online together on the same social site gives some semblance to togetherness.

Author: K Mohan26 May 2016 Member Level: Platinum   Points : 1

For every parent it is customary and compulsory to spend quality time with the children. Normally in any house the husband and wife are both working and their office hours are also different. In one of my friends house, the husband has the normal working hour of the day but wife has the night duty. That means she cannot spend quality bed time with the child and where as the husband gets tired due to the work load in office and thus the child is deprived of father and mothers love at night. How long the elders of the home can manage a child! As he grows, he wants to have the presence of the parents and both must give him quality time. Play with him and cuddle him for even some small gestures and smiles.

Author: Swati Sarnobat08 Mar 2017 Member Level: Gold   Points : 2

One can spend quality time by regularly playing with children. One or two games can be played daily for an allocated time. Some games such as throwing balls to each other, cricket, football etc can improve co-ordination with each other. You can also say your prayers together with your children. In every activity at home, children should be involved.



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