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Want to elope with your beau. Let us go !
Posted Date: 30 Jan 2008 Resource Type: Articles/Knowledge Sharing Category: Entertainments
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Posted By: Sushil Kumar Patial Member Level: Gold
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Impulse, immaturity or dreamy ideas — what is it that drives young couples to elope?
What according to you is the common thread between movies like Qayamat Se Qayamat Tak, Dil and the recent blockbuster, Jab We Met apart from that all of them are romantic flicks? The answer has to be the topic of elopement, which the plots of these movies have dealt with in more than one way. No one can deny the fact that there is something exciting, fascinating and romantic about the whole idea of running off with your beau. And this is perhaps the reason why this situation is encashed so many times by our film directors.
However, the terms and situations of real world and its reel counterpart are poles apart. The fun of being on the run is confined to silver screens for real world isn’t all that hunky dory. Eloping isn’t all that easy as it seems. There are various reasons that compel two lovers to take a drastic step like this.
Control thy impulse
According to Dr Ekta Soni, clinical psychologist, Apollo Hospital, “The foremost reason is the fact the two of them do not get the approval from their respective families.” But parental objection is no longer the only reason couples elope. Ekta further adds, “Many times it is the impulse that drives such a decision. And for some couples, eloping can also be an indirect way of showing they are in charge of their lives and they know how to deal with it. ”
Dr Pallavi Barthakur Gillani, counsellor, relationshipforever.com points out, “Immaturity is also another reason for this kind of strong reaction. That’s because such couples just don’t want to listen to anybody as they have blind trust on the each other.”
There is also a sense of excitement and dreamy notion attached to this whole concept of elopement. Says Shalini Anant, clinical psychologist, VIMHANS, “This sense of spontaneity and adventure can be very appealing for young lovers. ”
Be ready for all
A couple who decides to elope has to mentally prepared to face the repercussions. Ekta maintains, “The couple should keep the worst case scenario in their mind. Before they decide to get into this situation, they should carefully examine the pros and cons of their decision. Though the actual wedding plans may be spontaneous, but their decision to marry one another should be fully contemplated.”
According to Pallavi both of them should think practically since love isn’t the sole factor for the sustaining a relationship.
“They should understand marriage is not the end but the beginning of lot of responsibilities. They shouldn’t be seeing things through a rose-tinted glass,” maintains Shalini.
To say the least, they should try to be happy with each other because the support provided by either of the partners is indispensable in such a situation. They won’t be having others standing behind them so both of them should work towards proving that they made the right choice about their life partners.
Do communicate
Elopement will certainly cause heartburn to family and relatives. So what should the fleeing couple do to lessen the grief of their near and dear one?
“Trying to persuade your parents by accepting that you committed a mistake is the one of the best way to tackle such situation,” suggests Ekta.
“They should try to be in touch with their parents and tell them how both of them are happy with each other. At the end of the day every parent wants his /her child to stay happy. In the long run, the grudge eventually goes away and elders come to ease with the situation,” concludes Pallavi.
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