Divorce ( Mutual or Contested)
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I am a man married in 2014 & having 2 Kids( Girls). Now it is unbearable to continue as day by day the situations got worse.
We are 6 Siblings ( 5 Elder sisters + 1 me the youngest). Mom is 80 years old. Mine was a well arranged marriage & She is well educated girl (M.Com-Finance but not working). She was the same from the starting month but I thought she would change & adjust with the family but this never happened . I am working abroad. My mom is only at home(Kerala). My sisters are all married & settled in Mumbai & Mangalore & visit native during their children vacation or any ceremony / Festival. But my wife dont want them to come as she need to do the house chore when they are there but with only mom she acts stubborn & she doesn't say anything but goes as it is going. I dont say my mom is very quiet ...She too grumbles as every mother in law but is still active in doing everything.
From the first day itself she started behaving as she knows everything & is a good actor. Good in talking but not in doing. She feels as if she is doing favor to us by doing work. She says her Parents have told her not to do outside work till my mom is there.
I faced many ugly arguments & I even told my father in law that all is not well & i need to talk to him but he never got time for the same.
For the 2nd child delivery , she went home in the 5th month & didn't inform me or my mom about the delivery. When their relatives told them, that's when they called me as a formality. Even the naming of the child I came to know through facebook. I stopped sending money to her for expense after she left our home.
This December they even filed petition in the women cell instead of coming home for any discussion.
Now Everyone in the village knows about this & I feels its the time we need to part as I think the water has crossed the head. Even if we continue for our children's sake, it will put a bad effect on their mental behavior due to constant fight.
Please guide?
We are 6 Siblings ( 5 Elder sisters + 1 me the youngest). Mom is 80 years old. Mine was a well arranged marriage & She is well educated girl (M.Com-Finance but not working). She was the same from the starting month but I thought she would change & adjust with the family but this never happened . I am working abroad. My mom is only at home(Kerala). My sisters are all married & settled in Mumbai & Mangalore & visit native during their children vacation or any ceremony / Festival. But my wife dont want them to come as she need to do the house chore when they are there but with only mom she acts stubborn & she doesn't say anything but goes as it is going. I dont say my mom is very quiet ...She too grumbles as every mother in law but is still active in doing everything.
From the first day itself she started behaving as she knows everything & is a good actor. Good in talking but not in doing. She feels as if she is doing favor to us by doing work. She says her Parents have told her not to do outside work till my mom is there.
I faced many ugly arguments & I even told my father in law that all is not well & i need to talk to him but he never got time for the same.
For the 2nd child delivery , she went home in the 5th month & didn't inform me or my mom about the delivery. When their relatives told them, that's when they called me as a formality. Even the naming of the child I came to know through facebook. I stopped sending money to her for expense after she left our home.
This December they even filed petition in the women cell instead of coming home for any discussion.
Now Everyone in the village knows about this & I feels its the time we need to part as I think the water has crossed the head. Even if we continue for our children's sake, it will put a bad effect on their mental behavior due to constant fight.
Please guide?