After reading your short query, I am of the intention that you are tortured mentally and thus would not like to reconcile with your partner and thus would like to approach diverse and as your wife is not ready to give you divorce, it can be a contested divorce i.e. when only one of the parties want a divorce on the ground of Cruelty (mental cruelty), Mental Disorder or adultery, etc.
Documents you need to keep ready for a contested divorce:
1. Present address proof of Husband & Wife
2. Marriage photographs of the couple
3. Marriage certificate
4. Any proof or evidence supporting the reason under which divorce you want divorce like cruelty, adultery, desertion, lunacy, leprosy, the presumption of death, conversion to another religion, rape, sodomy or bestiality, etc.)
5. Your Professional and Financial proofs(Husband & Wife)
List of things that men should take care of before filing for a divorce:
1. Separate all your joint accounts and credit cards - separate all your joint accounts in the bank and either cancel or change the password of your debit and credit cards.
2. Maintain all the proof of communication - It is very essential as this will help you to get your divorce in a more poise manner which normally is not done by men.
3. Do not indulge in any relationships until your divorce is complete - It is very essential to have a good image in court and thus being away from any relationship( It means with the opposite sex and not family members) will help to get a suppportive order from the court.
4. Do not abuse - Even if your partner provokes you, do not indulge in any sort of abuse whether mental or physical at all costs as it can harm the proceedings and verdict from the court.
5. Go for a good divorce lawyer - A good lawyer will help you with the divorce proceeding without dragging the case but will also protect your rights during divorce and get a reduction in the alimony that one will have to pay.
6. Custody of Children - This is the most important as you both need to make a firm decision on this point. It can be sole or joint custody. The court normally gives more importance to the welfare of the child and to the parent who can bring up the child in a better way.
7. Alimony - You need to discuss this point with your lawyer about the alimony amount(monthly or lump sum) that you will have to pay to your wife & children.
8. Property - Be informed that if you'll have any residential property in joint name, then your wife will get 75% share and you will get only 25% share in the property i.e your wife will keep her 50% part and will also get half of her husband share that is from your share. She will also get an equal share in other properties like mutual funds, some business ventures, etc if any.
Where one needs to file their divorce petition: One needs to file their divorce petition at the family court that falls under the jurisdiction of your matrimonial home i.e. the place where you stay at present or last lived as a married couple after your marriage or at the family court at the place where the marriage had taken place.
The procedure for a contested divorce:
1. Petition preparing for Divorce
2. Filing of the Petition for Divorce in court
3. Screening of the Petition by Court during the first hearing by the filing party
4. Court asking the opposite side party to appear in Court
5. Direction for mediation(counseling) for an amicable solution by the court
6. Recording of evidence and hearing of issues, cross-examination, witnesses presentation, etc.
7. Final arguments by both the parties before the judge and the judge pronounce the decision
8. The final verdict by the Court with a limitation to file for appeal is 3 months from the date of the order or else, this will be treated as the final decision.
After going through all the above point, do sit in a silent place, think again and again before taking this step as once it is moved, it can be very tedious, lengthy, physically and mentally disturbing, but if you are steady, willing and sure, do follow the procedure.
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