Irrespective of political rhetoric from politically opposing sides, certain matters cannot be done or undone overnight.The situation regarding Jammu & Kashmir is also one like that.
In fact I am sure that a huge section of our country's population do not know about the Kashmir issue at all. It is the result of a localised issue which could have been solved militarily then and there, but unnecessarily made into an international issue inviting third party interference. Our leaders' lack of experience and (probably) over enthusiasm to be known as noble pacifists; all contributed to this.
The more time elapses the more the knottier it becomes and takes different dimensions.
BJP's original ancestor Hindu Mahasabha or later Jan Sangh was very clear in objecting the special status given to J&K from the day one. However Nehru having his say then got his way. As far as Nehru and the Sheikh Abdulla family had some good personal rapport things were going on. In fact Nehru was more lenient and supportive to Sheikh Abdullah irrespective of the stand of Abdullah. But Nehru got the bitter taste later.
Many of us do not know Kashmir much, other than what we learned in school as a 'heaven on Earth' or as the Apples and snow as seen in old Hindi films. Once we know the matter clearly then one can know the effect of special status.
BJP first need to make the people aware of the status and how it affects J&K people as well as the whole country. Once the people get to know the real matter, I think there will be ease in dealing matters.