To confirm ourselves the spot of mesmerizing,we can test with our index finger to keep straight to that center and just waving roundly whereas we have to see the point of index finger with our both eyes. we will feel some change in us.
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
Customs and habits vary from place to place and with community and sects. It also changes with times. Even it is also the personal choice and freedom whether to follow customs or not.
Let us be fair minded and allow people to choose what they want as far as the same is within the confines of normal decency, civility and well within the laws and rules in force? Also please note that there can be many who may be questioning what we do or don' do. Do we like that?
If the question is just academic doubt, then it is better to get such things clarified from some experienced elders in the family or familiarity than discussing in open forum as it can impinge on someone's freedom and feelings.
To say generally, these are mostly certain customs started and followed for certain reasons as per situations in certain times. Now those situations have changed and such habits and customs may be just relics. So some people may like not to follow same, while some may continue with them.
To avoid unnecessary repetition, I give below links of threads where the 'sindoor' topic was discussed.
Thread1; thread 2; thread 3; thread4
With the modernization, many traditional customs which are not being considered as particularly relevant in the present context, are being dispensed with.
Educated working girls with modern outlook are generally withdrawing themselves from following any custom blindly. It is not only sindoor, many other changes can be noticed in all facets including attire. Toe rings, anklets and jewelry pieces are not being worn by educated working women nowadays.
Even in India many Hindu customs are not being followed by other people who have their own customs and traditions.
Even dupatta (long scarf) for covering head is not being worn by women with modern thoughts and outlook.
Thus perhaps there is no need of pondering over such issues which are of little value from academic point of view.
Let us encourage each other in sharing knowledge.
The customs do change across regions. There is no point in harping on the so called outdated traditional customs which may not hold any particular meaning in the current situation.
Education provides you an insight into thinking practically before agreeing to anything blindly. A properly and truly educated person will never follow a custom just because it has been preached from times immemorial. If you are educated in the real sense of the word ( hopefully not just earned the mark sheets), you will definitely question every aspect of what has been brought to your attention instead of just following the tradition.
Live....and Let Live...!
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on." -Robert Frost
Putting vermilion (sindoor) on the forehead and on the hair partition is mandatory for Hindu married women across the country irrespective of the region to which they belong. It is a sign of marital status of women in addition to the sacred 'mangala sutram' they wear after marriage.
In Hinduism, applying 'tilakam / tilak' on the forehead is mandatory even for unmarried girls and for men as well.
But due to cultural assimilation and other reasons better known to everyone, gradually men discontinued applying 'tilak' on their forehead. But they do occasionally during festive seasons.
So also the unmarried girls / women too discontinued applying 'tilak'. And now this has spread to the married women too. Many of them don't feel like following this culture for reasons better known to them.
After all, it's a personal thing and no compulsion.
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